I have a ring, but no proposal. He slid the ring on my finger, but never said "will you marry me?" I am known by his family as his fiance. Here is my original question:
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2007-09-20 08:01:36 · 17 answers · asked by love 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I already answered this. If it bothers you, it bothers you...bring it up to him. It's called communication, and it's a mandatory skill for a successful marriage.
2007-09-20 08:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Hey!! if you are planning on spending the rest of your days with him, you might as well star to communicating NOW!!
there are so many things in a marriage that are upsetting that if you do not start talking and completely knowing one another, little things will start piling up, until one or both of you will not be able to handle them any more, and that's how fairy tales start to dye.
Talk to your fiance, tell him how much you love the ring and everything that it represents, and tell him how much "words" would have added up to that special feeling!
Latter you can mention how important is for you to get me sages of all types across to each other.
i´ve been married for 14 years and it´s really hard, work on the little things from the beginning... remember that it´s a long road, and you might as well do it feeling not only in love but comfortable.
congratulations on your engagement!
2007-09-20 16:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by momof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then it's not an engagement ring, there's no proposal. It's just a ring to let other men think you are unavailable. It doesn't bind him to marry you. Why not ask him "what does this ring represent to you?" Whatever his reply, tell him "I didn't hear you say those words (will you marry me?)"
Whatevery his response to that, say......"yes, I want you to ask, I want to hear it from your mouth so that I can tell my parents, friends and relatives that you DID propose to me and how you did it."
If you can't even talk about this to him, your relationship is on shaky grounds! Beware!
2007-09-20 20:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to ask him outright. Last year my girlfriend was given a ring that she liked, but it wasn't an engagement ring. When I asked her if that's what she thought it was, she said yes. When I asked him if it was an engagement ring, all he would say is that it was a ring she wanted. She had to ask. He told her she could consider them engaged, although it wasn't the ring he wanted to buy her, he got what she insisted on having. Kind of a screwy proposal to me.
2007-09-20 15:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lady G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read your original question.
If he really cares about you and not just about getting married, he would have given you the proposal you asked for instead of belittling your feelings! How does he act towards you in other situations? Does he treat you with respect? Does he always make light of what you say when you express yourself?
Maybe you should examine your relationship with him and ask yourself if you really want to marry him.
2007-09-20 15:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, if you plan to marry each other, you are engaged. I'm guessing at some point you had a conversation where you discussed that you were going to get married or something. If you are bothered by him not asking the question, mention it to him.
2007-09-20 19:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it was a token of LOVE not the real deal.
He would ask you if that is what it was intended.
Like a promise ring, he love you just not time to be married just yet.
If you love him and this is the only issue THE RING that he has given you.... YOU HAVE IT GOOD!
He is showing his love back by giving you a ring.
Best of luck
2007-09-20 15:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by bigthinker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure of the legal implications. A ring 'implies' that there is a commitment, but surely you can talk to the man. I would ask him flat out. You both need to chat it up.
2007-09-20 19:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to marry him? I would be hurt to have my future husband call my feelings and simple romantic requests "stupid" Have you dated this man long enough? I hope the engagement, no matter how long, allow plenty of time for in depth serious conversations regarding your future together. Good luck.
2007-09-20 15:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the ring is pretty much a proposal in gold, and if his family is calling you his fiancee and he's not correcting them, I think you're fine. If you're worried, ask him about setting a date for the wedding. That will clarify matters.
2007-09-20 15:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont be bothered that he didnt pop the question. YOu didnt give an answer when u allowed him to slide the ring on your finger anyway. Dont you think it bothered him too that you didnt say anything? So both of u didnt say what should be said on what that ring is all about.
2007-09-20 15:06:22 · answer #11 · answered by samantha082108 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋