when I start talking or seeing someone, how do I avoid being played like a fool, how do I tell if a girl really wants me and me alone?
2007-09-20 07:57:38 · 22 answers · asked by redvelvethuman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man take it from someone who has had training in Suspect Interview and Interrogation techniques, eye contact will always be your best bet. Look at them in they're eyes and don't break the contact. Watch for they're body language and subtle little gestures. Neurophysiology says that if someone is asked a question like "What's your fav color" and the person looks up and to the right, they're accessing the creative side of they're brain because that's where the color reference is stored. If you ask "how much is 235 + 2498" they will most likely look up and to the left, because that's the more critical thinking side. So if you ask "where were you lastnight" and they look up and to the right, you may have a liar on your hands my friend. As for body language, nervous movements, stuttering, uncomfortable vibes from the person. things like this will normally be the signs of a liar. Hope I didn't get too technical, but its not an easy thing to do, it does take practice.
2007-09-20 08:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know that any more than the girl knows if YOU are telling the truth or not. Maybe that is why it is a very good idea not to give your heart away too easily to anybody until you come to know that person very very well. A person can pretend to be what he or she is not for just so long. If it's an act, that person will surely slip up given a little time. If it's for real, then it will always be exactly the same.. But especially if you are a young person.... which I think you are..... you don't ever want to go committing all of your heart, soul, and emotions to another person. Take it one day, one week, one month of the time, and be ruled by your head and not your often, all-too-hasty heart.
2007-09-20 08:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It gets easier the older you are because you have more experience in judging character. This is something you don't find out over night. It takes weeks or months of being around someone before you see the real person. Her true character will come out sooner or later. That's why i'ts good not torush into a relationship.
2007-09-20 08:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all in the eyes... a woman who cannot look you in the eyes and say the things she does is not a truthful person. If she is not comfortable with herself, then she cannot be honest with anyone else.
Sincerity shines through - if you doubt it, it's probably not there. Observe how the girl treats others, what her interests are, if she is motivated and has goals, etc... liars/players typically are users, so you won't see them offering kindness to another, unless it benefits them too.
Best of luck finding the right one!
2007-09-20 08:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Grá 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does their behavior back up what their saying? Does she say what she means, and mean what she says?
Don't be afraid to ask questions, watch her body language.
Asking a question isn't an inquisition, it's just a question.
If you can't trust her, why would you want to be with her?
Most folks Want to be in a relationship, many are so desperate that they will ignore obvious signs of deception and manipulation to stay in a unhealthy and destructive union.
To expect honesty in a relationship, you have to be willing to be honest with the person you're with.
The bottom line is, if you don't lie to yourself, and you have the balls to ask questions that if answered, will make you, (and her), very uncomfortable, you won't have any problems
Luck
2007-09-20 08:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An honest woman will tell you if she is a cheat, a dishonest one wont. in other words, you can never tell. Just go with your gut. Remember beauty isn't all it is cracked up to be. If you see a pretty girl out with some friends, talk to those friends, find out about her. if you can get the friends to like you (think you are good for her) then they will tell you whats up.
2007-09-20 08:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by victoria E. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Body language, the way she reacts to questions, in someones eyes... but you really have to get to know a person youll know when shes truthful
2007-09-20 08:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jaz_San 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthful ones are an old myth passed down from generation to generation.
2007-09-20 08:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by Personal Insult 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look into her eyes if her pupils are slightly dilated she is telling the truth.... also if u cant see her pupils she isn't looking straight at you this also increases the chances of her not telling the truth. also, people who are lying talk more and tend to explain more, about 28%. people who are lying also make more third person references.
2007-09-20 08:06:27 · answer #9 · answered by Dan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to be yourself and hope that she will be herself. There is no full proof way of knowing if someone is being honest.
No one is always decietful and always truthful. People just have good or bad behaviors
2007-09-20 08:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by kenyanamerican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋