2007-09-20 07:48:03 · 19 answers · asked by FreakNasty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, no, no, and no!
One response that might work for you:
"Wow, thank you for telling me, you mean alot to me, too and I have fun being with you,"
If necessary you can reiterate:
"You mean alot to me, but I can't say I love you back right now."
If you feel you need to provide some kind of explanation, you might try saying something like, "I know I like you alot, but I can't say I love you now because I'm not sure. Love isn't a feeling a person can choose to have, or something anyone can make happen, but it's great when it does happen."
...and let the person know all the right things he is doing.
If he really tries to force you to make a decision, just repeat that love is not a feeling a person can choose or force, and if he feels like you must love him back right now, maybe you two should not be together.
You may also point out that if he forces you to say "I love you" to him when you don't feel it, it would be lying, and does he want the person he loves to lie to him...
If he's mature, just the simple, "Wow, thank you for telling me, you mean alot to me, too and I have fun being with you," should suffice and take the topic in a normal direction.
2007-09-20 08:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by Richard 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
⥠No you should not say I love you if you dont mean it or if you are unsure! Tell him thank you. [[After all it is wonderful to have another person love you!]] If he questions you then tell him that you are not ready to say those 3 words yet. If he truly loves you then he will respect you and understand. Good Luck!
2007-09-20 14:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, don't say it back especially if you don't mean it. That would cause tons of problems in the long run. What you should do is let him know that you're still trying to get to know him. You are still with him so you must be right?
2007-09-20 14:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by Remy B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should. I experienced the same thing. I would just say "I know" and just joke around to ease the situation. Tell him how you feel, so you won't lead him on.
2007-09-20 14:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Cynthia C*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a strong word and thrown around much too loosely in our society. You should say it only when you mean it.
2007-09-20 14:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If you thinks he really means it then you could say something like, "I really care about you a lot" and let him know that you aren't rejecting his declaration, but waiting to respond until you can really mean it.
2007-09-20 14:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by kljdfsrnm, 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything that you might regret later. If you truly don't feel the same way he does, why hurt him. you would want someone to be honest with you I'm sure.
2007-09-20 14:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by hurley59gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I just pulled my boyfriend into a tight hug when he says that. *Waiting for the right moment and to know for sure*
2007-09-20 14:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by Hiro a Hero? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if like u have just been goin out wiv him, then yes, cuz then he'll just kind of take it with a pinch of salt....
i think its not what you say, but its what you do that truly tells some one that you love them for sure
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2007-09-20 14:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by Dom est.1990 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because that would be leading him on. just say thank you but you're not sure if you really love him back. i'm sure he wouldn't want you to say it if you didn't mean it. that would be selfish of him
2007-09-20 14:51:12 · answer #10 · answered by million$? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋