I just want some feedback from some guys in their early 20s about "dating". I'm 22 and I have the hardest time finding guys that actually want to "date" and really get to know me and hang out without just wanting sex. I was starting to think it was me but the more I think about it it might just be how young guys (22, 23, 24) are. What usually happens is I'll meet a guy we'll go on an actual date the first time each time after that they just want to hang out at home. I'm pretty sure they want to hang out at home just to get some. This will
I feel like either way its a lose lose situation because if I give in they get what they want and disappear, If I don't give in they stop calling. I have been told that I am extremely attractive and I have no trouble attracting a guy its just that none of them seem to stick around.I have lots of friends and what I think is a good personality. I'm getting to the point where I can predict everything that will happen when I meet a guy. I am soo frus
2007-09-20 07:32:43 · 6 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not a guy but I'm in my late 20's and I can tell you to never do something that you don't want to do. There are guys out there that only want to "get some" and there are great guys out there that will be truly interested in you. Stay true to yourself and what you want out of life. Don't change for anyone. Unfortunately sometimes you have to meet a lot of frogs before you find your prince.
If you feel pressured to go back to his place on the first date, make reccomendations for coffee or different activities outside the home. Set your own standards and who knows maybe one of the guys wanted to go back just because it was cheaper, not because he wanted to get you into bed. You can even say that you prefer hanging out to get to know each other.
Don't compromise yourself!
2007-09-20 07:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by SportsGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im not a guy but just to let you know that i don't think its a lose lose situation..i mean the people you give in to for example, there is a chance that they won't call back after getting what they want...whereas if you don't give them what they want (and stick to what you feel is right) perhaps they won't call back but you win as the only thing they are after they won't get..In any case im sure there are guys that actually "want' to date and have a "real" connection without wanting sex at 1st glance, just look around a bit more and keep you options open im sure you'll find them ^^.
2007-09-20 14:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by 4eva-pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from my personal experience (im 22, f as well) WHERE you meet guys is a big part of it. if you are meeting these guys and they are hanging out at a bar or pick you up because you are hot... that right there isnt really a good sign! and you have to remember that girls mature faster than guys.... guys our age are not ready to settle down... they've only been 21 for a year or 2 and they still like to go out and party... and look at hot chicks... because you must admit... there are a lot of cute girls our age that ARE willing to have sex just to get some... and because you are cute, you are being put in a catagory with them...
guys like this arent the ones worth worrying about.
2007-09-20 14:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by bri4502 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age group you mentioned for the guys above is very ripe for raging hormones. They are like bees looking for a flower. I've been there. Why not go for over 30? Surely there must be some groups,etc. for the over 30. crowd even though you're not. Sorry, don't know what else to tell ya, but I know where you are coming from.
2007-09-20 14:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They stop calling because those are the guys you described in your question. They aren't the only guys out there, the rest speaks for itself.
2007-09-20 14:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
therz nothing wrong wit u honey,u must be misunderstood somehow esp wen they look at.u may appear to them as not the seriouse type, trust me clothes do say alot.how about you try and find urself before u try and find sombody.hope i helped a bit
2007-09-20 14:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋