We where dating and living together and things didnt work out for us. I dont want to be rude and throw her out but dont know how to get her out.
2007-09-20 07:27:18 · 55 answers · asked by Jim M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Start bringing other girls home?
2007-09-20 07:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately the lease doesn't have a relationship clause, which is something you should have considered before you got locked into a contract.
But, that's neither here nor there.
So, either you can be rude and ask her to leave or if you don't have the gumption, start looking for a place so you can move out. Talk to the land lord and discus your options.
And if you need a little motivation, consider that eventually she'll start bring guys home with her at night.
2007-09-20 07:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, have you broken up with her yet? Does she even know that she is now your ex and not still your current girlfriend.
Talk to her if she hasn't get the hint yet. Maybe she still thinks that you guys are still working things out. I think she will understand.
Try not being rude is to let her have reasonable time to find a place instead of throwing her out. So both of you have to determine what is "reasonable timing" for her to move out.
2007-09-20 07:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by VHE123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you moved in together it was as a couple and to take your relationship to the next level. Now that the relationship has ended, the living arrangement needs to change too. It is that simple. Let her know it isn't about hate, anger, getting even etc.., I assume it was your house before she moved in and that she is not on the lease. In that case, let her know you aren't kicking her out but she needs to make arrangements and move out in the next 30 days. Be sure and give a time frame and don't leave it open ended. She isn't dumb and surely she knew this might happen, when you broke up.
2007-09-20 07:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, EU... Not all American girls are like that. I happen to be one of the many.
As for the question: I would give her a 30 days notice. Make sure she's out by a certain date and if she's not, either charge her rent or throw her stuff out on the curb. At least you're giving her time to look around.
2007-09-20 07:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her to leave. The relationship is over and you two need to move on. I would sit her down and ask her how she is doing with the break up? If she says fine then tell her that you are having some issues moving on and think it might be easier if the two of you weren't living together. and if she says she's struggling tel her that it might be easier for her if she weren't coming home to you every night. Ask her if she would like you to help her find an apt? You might not be able to get her out without sticking to your guns...good luck.
2007-09-20 07:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by Big Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not on the lease, set a deadline for her explaining that since you are no longer together it is time for you to go your seperate ways and she needs to look for other arrangments. I'm surprised that she wants to be there after you broke up- maybe she doesn't really want it to be over which is going to make it a lot more complicated. There is no way to do these things without causing hurt feelings but if it is your place, she needs to move on.
2007-09-20 07:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Newlywed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't rude to say "I care about you but this is not working for me. It's time for us to move on with your lives, so I need to have you out by Insert Reasonable Date Here." It is your house and your right to invite anyone you wish to live in it, or invite them not to live in it any more. This is a simple fact of adulthood. Not open for debate. Give her a reasonable amount of time (two weeks, four weeks) to find a new place. As the date approaches, offer to help her pack up her stuff. Offer to help her move it to her new place.
Just don't offer to let her stay indefinitely if that's not what you want.
2007-09-20 07:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are bringing a girl over and ask her if she can be out of the house to avoid an uncomfortable situation. Do this a few times a week with or with out a new girl. Shouldn't take long.
If that doesnt work ask her to pay for things!
2007-09-20 07:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by Rich's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her someone else is moving in. Like someone else said..start bringing girls home. Start having your family members over all the time.
Bring people over she didn't like or get along w/. Give her a date to move out by. Talk to your landlord. She's being rude by still hanging around!
2007-09-20 07:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by Kendra420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your script:
"Susan (or Kitty or Jenny or whatever her name is), I've been thinking. I think that now that we are not a couple, it is inappropriate for us to live together. I think that if either of us were to date in the near future, it would be extremely awkward, and I feel awkward about it now. I want to remain on good terms with you, and I don't want to throw you out, but I think it is time you get your own place, and I'll be willing to help you look and to help you move."
If she responds negatively, kick her out. My friend wound up living with his ex for months after they split. It was bizarre.
2007-09-20 07:36:41 · answer #11 · answered by Lynn G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋