If you had a 19 year old daughter, would it bother you if she left home to live with a 30 year old?
Just curious....
2007-09-20 07:16:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This is my best friends daughter and she's just bought her second home pregnancy kit...the 30 year old guy is ready to settle down and have a family however, the girl's mum is beside herself.
2007-09-20 07:30:17 · update #1
Truthfully? Yes, probably!!! My daughter is 18 and still living at home...that thought is really kinda scary to me! Does that make me a bad mom? =D
2007-09-20 07:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by F-1 says KISS IT! 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well at the age of 19......... I had already had my son and was living with my boyfriend who is a few years older than me. In the beginning, everyone thought that he was dating me only for one thing.Everyone assumes that older guys are only after....that. This is not always true. After my family got to know him, he became part of the family. My mom is very happy we are together. It has been almost 8 years now and we have 2 kids. We couldn't be happier.
So I don't think it would bother me if my daughter was in the same situation.
If her daughter is ready to settle down than it is kinda her choice who she chooses to do that with. Has her mom met the guy? I don't think their age difference is that bad. I've seen worse. Like a guy in his 50's with a girl in her 20's
2007-09-20 08:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a word, YES! I would be highly suspicious of the 30 y/o motives of wanting to be with a 19 y/o. And is she leaving w/o telling her parents? I'm thinking this is either you or a friend. Have the parents met this man? If he hasn't, he's being highly disrespectful to not only the parents to the girl herself.
I am the mother of a 16 y/o boy, and I would feel the same way if it was a 30 y/o woman after him.
2007-09-20 07:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by im here 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes! You have no idea what his intentions are. And why would a 30 year old want to hang around with a 19 year old besides the obvious
2007-09-20 07:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by MICDYL 0 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me, especially since at 19 I would want her to be focused on getting a good education.
The problem with being in a relationship with a much older person is that the older person has most of the control in the relationship. And the younger person doesn't even recognize the issue since they have always lived with 'rules'.
2007-09-20 07:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by wait and see 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It would probably bother me but I wouldn't really go into it with her. The more I would push the issue the more my daughter would push away from me. I would hope that she realized that it could potentially be a mistake, but who's to say. I don't see what the two could have in common but that is not up to me! That's why God created free will.
2007-09-20 07:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Unless he was a sweetheart with what is best for her in mind.... If he was just a putz looking to get laid Id be Devestated that I worked the better part of my life to Raise this child with all the strength, time, love, and money, and then turn her into the outside world for some 30 yr old wolf to devour....That hurts.
2007-09-20 07:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by The Stylist 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sure... But it is her life and she must learn by making her own decisions and living with the consequences of those decisions... Personnally, I would counsel her to experience life over the next few years before making a committment like moving in with a man, regardless of his age
2007-09-20 07:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by Joey_Pit 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely,You have every right to be concerned.Even if he is a good guy the difference in years will eventually get in the way she is too young to realize the problems that can arise.
2007-09-20 07:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by rjm 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well im sure its not the ideal situation that a parent invisions for their child *looks thoughtful* but there isnt much u can do, since they are an adult now. screaming and yelling will only alienate them from u, and make them feel rebelious, if i wus reallay concerned, i wud just ask her to make sure she follows her heart, an does whut she truely wants, and i wud trust in my parenting and her upbringing ♥
2007-09-20 07:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋