She is thinking she may have a life without kids if she stays with me and I have told her that's not true, but she wants a child NOW. That seems to be all that matters to her. Her best friend just got pregnant too. This is a smart girl from a good family, so am I. She was telling me she loved me so much just up to a couple of weeks ago. Is it over? Is she really going to go out and find someone this quick to give her a child now? We are so close to making it happen. why do this now? all she tells me is, "i can't talk about it now," which doesn't help me out much. Has she given up or is it normal for women at this age/stage to do this to a man who just two weeks ago she wanted to have a child with. I am out in the cold on this. Do I just give up? Is that what she wants...me to just walk away? any women who have gone through this please clue me in on what to do. thanks for your help.
2007-09-20 06:27:42 · 9 answers · asked by keepingitgoing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's probably the moodiness that comes along with menopause.
If YOU want to have a child as well, and you are FINANCIALLY and EMOTIONALLY capable, go for it.
2007-09-20 06:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Her biological clock is ticking. She's thinking that she may never have kids if it doesn't happen right this instant. Also, her hormones are way out of whack. That doesn't help. Her best friend being pregnant doesn't help either.
If you want to have children with her, then what are you waiting for? You need to let her know that you find her attractive, and that you'd love to start a family with her. Be supportive.
Next week she'll be back to wanting to have a baby, she's just on an emotional roller coaster ride right now because her hormones are all messed up. Just be there and support her. When she's ready she'll let you know. Then, just enjoy the baby-making process.
The worst thing you could do is walk away from her. She'll think you don't want kids, or that you don't want her, and that will make things worse.
2007-09-20 14:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her clock is just ticking. I'm sure she doesn't want a child with just anyone. Tell her to quit worrying about it so much and it will happen. How you two going to make a baby if she isn't talking you can't be doing the deed that makes a baby. Gotta make love more. It'll happpen when it's suppose to.
2007-09-20 13:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My God man, stop getting the milk for free and Marry this girl and give her babies.
Your girlfriend is yearning for a baby and getting very depressed, that is the mood swing she is having, plus her time clock is ticking and ticking and ticking.
And one more thing, be so thankful she has maternal instincts and wants and yearns for babies, there are women out there today that have NO maternal instincts and would make terrible mothers, yours sounds like she will be a good mommy.
Time to grow up, join the family and enjoy!
2007-09-20 13:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she wants a child so bad, she probably realizes her clock is ticking and she doesn't have much time to make it happen. Female fertility drops dramatically after age 35, and she probably knows it. Rather than making it sound like she's acting irrationally, you should educate yourself on this reality.
http://health.discovery.com/centers/pregnancy/americanbaby/fertilityandage.html
2007-09-20 13:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen mate if u are financially and emotianlly able to care and lookafter a baby then have a child you say you were close to making it happen why cant you talk to her say to ehr you love her and suggest marriage first. and on the honey moon make the baby i say marriage ebcause thats generally what happens. u feel mroe tied and more commited for a child if she wont except marriage then personally i wouldent if she loves you and only you then she would wed you
2007-09-20 13:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by GG 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think MARRIAGE before children.
You two need to have a serious talk,
about everything, test about conceiving,
adoption...
2007-09-20 13:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is making you think the relationship is over?
2007-09-20 13:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by LOL 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is not getting younger.. give her a child!! tell her you want to be with her and give her one, she is scared about getting older and wants to be a mom. so give her one!!!
2007-09-20 13:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by mommy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋