thinking of running away from home....?

Question

i've been thinkin alot about running away from home..
i'm really tired of all of the bullshit that goes on in my family.. my grades have been going down cuz i haven't been able to think about what i'm doing becuz of all of the **** that is going on in my family..i've tried talking to them about how i feel.. & they either just ignore it or say "I don't care about your feelings!" each and every day my depression is getting worse... i cry for hours when i get home from school.. it feels like they are ripping out my heart.. i try so hard to do whats right yet i still get a whole bunch of **** from them...i talk on the phone to my bestie about everything thats been going on in my family.. she says that i need to get out of my house.. & i totally agree with her.. stayin in my house is slowly killing me on the inside.. so what should i do?
i've already tried talking to my parents about it & nothing seems to be getting solved..
any input will help alot.

thanks,

Answer 1

It sounds to me like your parents have a lot of issues that they are trying to deal with and are focusing on those. It is a shame when parents get so caught up in their own drama that they forget kids are involved. I think that some parents think the kids aren't really paying attention to what is going on or that they care what the parents are going through. I really feel for you, but running away from a problem is not a good idea. The problem will always remain. You have to fix it. Can you go to an outside source, such as a relative, and talk to them? Maybe that person can talk to your parents for you. Maybe if they hear it from another adult they will take you more seriously. Also, you can go to the county and ask for some sort of help. They may offer counseling and someone to talk to. You don't know me, but sometimes it is easier to talk to someone that has no investment in your relationship. If you would like to talk you may email me. I hope things get better for you honey and keep your chin up. Remember, your parents problems are not your problems. At your age, you have enough emotional things to deal with. Let them go at each other and you take a time out for yourself. Only we can make us feel the way we feel. Tell yourself you will not let your parents destroy you. You are better than that and deserve better. Tell yourself you are not going to end up miserable like they are. Surround yourself with postive things and things you enjoy. Good luck.

Answer 2

Im sorry that you are feeling like you have no other option than to run away. Plese dont do it. If you leave they will look for you and bring you back.the juvenile system is not a place you want to be in. you could end up in a foster home or somewhere that you dont feel safe. But the worst part is that you will be a in alot of danger out on the street. Life is hard sometimes and we have to find a way to deal with it . If you cant get your parents to listen then you need to find someone that will. Your councelors at school can find someone that you can talk too to get help.Or maybe you can talk to your pastor. Maybe your whole family needs therapy to deal with what is going on. Remember if you are feeling this way then it is possible that the rest of your family have issues to deal with too. I am sorry that they just push you away and dont take time to listen and help you get through it. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself . Work hard on your grades , focus on school work let it be an outlet for all your pain. There is too much help out there to run away from home. I sure hope that you find some peace. Good luck

Answer 3

Running away usually isn't the best answer. You actually get from your current problems, and just get new ones. I think you are still under age... and if you leave, how are you going to support yourself? You say that you've tried talking to your parents and they ignore you; have you tried talking toa counselor at school??? They usually are helpful finding a smart solution. You may think that all your suffering is caused by your family problems,and it may not even be that at all, you may be suffering from depression and becasue there are some family issues this seems much bigger than it is. So, speak with another person, look for answeres in the right places... I think u will b fine. Don't run away, that isn't smart. Talk to your teacher... if things are really that bad, then you will get placced somewhere you wont suffer any more or as much as now.

Answer 4

Sweetie, Running away from home is NEVER the answer. Once you start running away...you'll be running for the rest of your life. You seem like a very smart young lady, don't put yourself down that path. Is there any relatives that you can stay with? Speak to a counselor or any adult figure that you can trust, I know you spoke to your best friend but this is a definitely something that needs to be discussed with an adult. Running away is so dangerous and I know that's not what you really want to do because you would not be asking for other alternatives. I really wish you the best of luck....keep strong. Everything will work itself out...

Answer 5

If you talk to your friend's parents do you think they'd let you stay with them until things settle down at home? Running away isn't going to solve anything - for you or your family. Do you truly want to live your life on the streets, being a no body, with no money, not going to school, no one around at all that cares about you in any way shape or form? Do you want to live outside in the winter, freezing - or boiling hot in the summer? That's what runaways usually end up doing and then in order to survive they will end up doing anything - most things you can't even imagine - prostitution, drug dealing, stealing....is that truly what you want?

Go talk to someone - a school counselor, a clergy person, a trusted adult, Aunts, Uncles, anyone who can either get you out of the situation and take you in to their own home, or that can try to talk some sense in to your family. You are very wise to realize it's a depression you are going in to and you need to find a way out fast! Do something, but running away isn't the answer.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

From your other postings, you are just barely 16. How will you eat and where will you sleep? What happens when you have to go to school? What happens at Christmas?

I know you have alot going on, but really the only one who can change things is you. Change how you see things and how you deal with them. Throw yourself into your school work and stop looking for affirmation from your parents. Your best friend isn't going to pay for you to go to the doctor if you get hurt or send you to college. While running away sounds very dramatic, its not practical. I suggest that everyone who is in this situation just try to get along as best you can and stop the drama. If you can make it the next two years, then you will be able to go away to college and you will be free and have an education that will allow you the freedom to support yourself. People who quit school at 16 wind up pregnant, in lowing paying jobs with no future and regretting the day they reacted instead of acted.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

I think everyone has gone through this.. feeling like no one cares, wanting to run away. but let me tell you something that is not the answers to your problems. if you can not handle the yelling at home and the fighting there is no way you can handle being on the streets. where would you go , who would you stay with... etc etc... what you need to do is talk to a teacher and tell them what is going on. so that maybe you can do some work in the classroom after school. can you stay with a relative maybe, like an aunt or grandparent..? but running away is just stupid and worse.. get some headphones and learn to deal with it. be glad that it is just yelling and fighting, be glad you have a roof over your head and are going to school, that is alot more then some kids. best of luck to you.. but your wrong about running away, but right about needing to get help, see if you can stay with a relative, not friends but family....

Answer 8

Staying with your parents is probably the best thing you can do. I know it sounds hard but they are your family. They are the people most likely to stick with you through thick and thin.

Finish school and make plans on getting on your own when you are an adult. I don't know what is going on at you house but if there is abuse involved you need to talk to a counselor or professional.

Remember it is you parents house and their rules try to understand why they make them and what they are thinking also. Communication is the big skill that will come in handy in any future relationship.

Answer 9

Girl i was where you were at five years ago and trust me on this if you runaway one of two things are gonna happen you will eventually be found and returned home and everything will be worse that's what happen to me the first time i ran away or you could end up in serious danger The second time i ran away Child Welfare took me away and put me in a foster home and i think that was far worse than being home maybe you should talk to a counselor or someone who could help you out best of luck to you though!!

Answer 10

Unless there's physical or sexual abuse going on, the best place for you to be is at home. If you think it's hard to cope at home, well, just try it on your own, or even with your so called bestie. You are not very specific about what's going on, but, kid, you've got a roof over your head and food, and all utilities are paid. Sometimes we can't change others. So just be good, focus on your studies---you are in school right? Do your chores, swallow their critizism of you and HOLD your tongue---it'll make you a stronger and more stable person. Hard times mold us---believe it or not. I am not trying to come down on you too hard. I just am telling you like it is. Hang in their finnish your studies. Things will be better soon, stop focusing on what you can't change and make good, sound choices for your future. Good luck to you!