Long story short I am having a baby. The man who I KNOW is the father is questioning things. That is understandable. My question is this when the baby comes do I have the legal right to give the child his last name or does he have to give permission? Thanks for taking the time to read this post. Peace
2007-09-20 05:59:40 · 11 answers · asked by KImberlee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you can give whatever last name to your kid.
2007-09-20 06:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Stephen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what state your in for every state they have different laws. However I do beleive that it is the same because I have had children in the state of NY & FL and in both states the father had to come to the hospital to sign papers and show id. In your case you may want to wait until the baby is born then have a test done to establish paternity then after assuring the father that it is his child have him change the name so that if things dont work out between u & him it is documented
2007-09-20 06:07:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to ask you a question. Why, in heaven's name, do you want your child--whose only stability will be YOU--to have a different last name from you? If he is the father, he is the father. If he is questioning that, then he can order a paternity test. If he acknowledges the child without the test, or if the test comes back positive, he will have a legal financial obligation to support this child. But it seems evident to me that you two are not going to "form a family" for this child. And you would give away the right to have this child connected to you by name as well as blood, in order to voluntarily connect the child to a man who doesn't even want him? Think of it, this makes no logical sense.
Think of the message you are sending to your child when your child is old enough to figure it out: my mom was ashamed to have me by herself, and felt she needed to give me my dad's name, even though he really didn't want us. How sad for the child. How unbearably sad.
I am a divorced mother of two who reclaimed my maiden name. My children bear their father's name. We all live in the same town, send our kids to the same schools. Who do you think is regarded as the outsider? That's right, me, with the different last name, even though one of my kids has lived with me the entire time (our son moved in with dad and stepmother).
If I had it to do again--even married--I would do as my sister-in-law (who kept her name even after she married) did. She gave the children their own first name, HER last name for the middle, and her husband's last name for the last. That way they can legally be known by EITHER name.
Honestly, if you're not married and likely won't be, I wouldn't give the child his name at all, or if you're feeling generous, maybe as a middle name. Remember, if you marry, you can always change the child's name. But if you're going to go this alone, make your child a solid member of YOUR family by giving him or her YOUR last name. That is something they'll always have, belonging.
2007-09-20 06:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Call the birth center at the hospital where you will deliver and ask them, laws may vary in some states. You will get some answers on here but it would be better to deal directly with the people you will be dealing with when the time comes.
2007-09-20 06:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well frist of all it is you child and it has the righ to your name. But sometimes people chose the other persons name. But even though it was you mistake, I think you should talk it over with the person in question and the girl.
2007-09-20 06:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by chrisafirgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give the baby any name you wish. My advice would be to give the baby the same last name as you. You are not married so you are free from any obligation to him.
2007-09-20 06:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lioness 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you can give that child any last name you want the only thing is that you cant name him as the father unless he is there to sign the papers!!
2007-09-20 06:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 23:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know but I know in Indiana the father has to be present to put his name on the birth certificate.
2007-09-20 06:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could get married, then all three of you would have the same names instead of three different names. That is usually the simplest thing to do.
2007-09-20 06:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As far as i know you can give him/her whatever name you like (within reason). I would however suggest a paternity test to convince him at any rate.
2007-09-20 06:05:21 · answer #11 · answered by h b 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋