The other day i went out with a friend- she told me to be home by a certain time and i lost track of time COMPLETLEY and was like 3 hours late :S (eeeeek)
i knew id be in trouble and probably grounded but when i got home she yelled at me and spanked me with a paddle over the couch!! im 12 and the last time i was spanked was when i was like 8 :(
now every time i do anything wrong shes like- DO U REMEMBER WT HAPND THE OTHER DAY? picking up the paddle
how unusual is it to be spanked at my age and why is she doing this now suddenly?
pleasee help :(:(:(
2007-09-20 05:52:43 · 22 answers · asked by ShyGirl12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
O By the way when i said SHE told me 2 be home i meant my mom n wen i sed SHE SPankd me i mean mom
2007-09-20 05:57:49 · update #1
it wasnt rely a paddle it was more like a spatuala but it hurt!!!!!
2007-09-20 05:58:58 · update #2
it wasnt rely a paddle it was more like a spatuala but it hurt!!!!!
2007-09-20 05:58:59 · update #3
You say it was more like a spatula but "it hurt".
As I've been told, a spanking is supposed to HURT.
The hairbrush sure can make the bare butt hurt. That can really smart! But sometimes it also makes me smart so I don't get it again for a while!
She quit spanking you when you were 8 ... maybe because you were being a "good little girl" then. Now she sees you turning into one of those terrible teens.
Some say teens are too old to be spanked. I think the truth of the matter may be that teens are the ones that actually need to be spanked, until they learn to respect authority (obey their parents, etc.)
2007-09-20 06:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 6 · 11⤊ 3⤋
so you don't think you shouldn't be spank for not be at home at a certain time. Nor call her and let her know that you forgot about the time and you on your way home. Are you saying that your friends and having a good time more important to you than having your mother worried about you? You're lucky that you didn't get a double spanking. 12 years old is not make you an adult, you just blew it for yourself for your mom to trust you out on your own. Just take this spanking as a reminder that you're not grown, there are rules that you have to follow, and you need to respect the one who care about you. If you got into some kind of trouble who are you going to call? your friends or mom? what happen if you was in an accident and hospitalized. Tell me, who would you want to be by your bed side, your friend or mom? Also, how is going to worried the most about you, huh? can you tell me, is it going to be your friend or your mom? let this be a lesson for you to learn. that is all the help i can give you on that, you're wrong and mom is right.
2007-09-20 06:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is more to this story than your mom spanking you with a paddle just out of the blue because you were late -3 hours BTW isnt just losing track of time it is flagrant disobediance. you lose track of time at 12 by 15 minutes 30 at the most 3 hours isnt losing track of time it is flat out saying I dont like the time constraints you have given me and I will show up when I please. As far as being spanked with a paddle each states laws differ. However it wasnt like she was smacking you in the head with it -which would be considered abuse-she was paddling your bottom, which in my opinion is probably what you deserved maybe if you werent acting like an 8 year old she wouldnt have treated you like an 8 year old.
2007-09-20 06:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
You deserved the spanking. Even in your question you said you knew you'd be in trouble and probably grounded....It didn't really seem to bother you if you were gonna get grounded. If a grounding really bothered you you would of kept an eye on the clock better. I bet you will keep an eye on the clock for now on when your out since you know that if your late your butt will get it. I think spanking is OK for all ages even through teen years for those things that are so beyond the "norm" rebellion...the "norm" would of been at MOST an hr past curfew. And even at that as soon as you saw the clock you should of been on a phone and saying "mom i am OK...I'm on my way home i lost track of time". Your mom was worried sick. What you did was complete defiance there was no "losing track of time" it was ill go home when I'm ready. It was deserved.
2007-09-20 12:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jewels 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
As long as she isn't leaving bruises it is an appropriate punishment. Yeah, your 12 going on 21 it sounds like. Your not even a teen yet! What you did was wrong! 3 hours late? No you didn't lose track of time you did what you wanted with no respect for the woman that feeds, clothes and puts a roof over your head. The problem in society is that people say spanking is child abuse. Our society is complete f----- up because of lack of discipline. Compare this generation with generations past where more spanking was happening?!? Like me, I'm 37 and still stand at attention when my dad walks in a room. I was spanked good probably 3 times and it was enough to keep me straight.
2007-09-20 06:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by Wonder Woman 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Well unfortunately, there are no laws regulating parents spanking their children anywhere in the US, so they can legally spank you until your 18th birthday. The only time they can get in trouble is if they do permanent physical damage or completely cover your backside in bruises. It doesn't matter whether they use a paddle, belt, hand, whatever. There are even some states that still have kids spanked in schools, all the way through high school.
2007-09-20 06:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kazama 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
All the people on here who've said that you deserved the spanking seriously need to grow up and step into the 21st century. There's absolutely no justification for that sort of thing, whatever your age. Being yelled at or grounded is enough. Is there someone in your family that you can tell, or even stay with if necessary? Your mother needs to know that what she's done is unacceptable and being away from her for a while might be the lesson she needs.
2007-09-21 08:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by chemical_sister_2000 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If I were her, you will be grounded for one month on top of the spanks. You are only 12. Unless you are able to support youself, you follow the rule made by the adult in the house you live in. Your mom is correct. Good for her. We need more parents like this. What do you expect her to do? Say, good job stay late more often? You are spoiled. You will thank your mom later.
2007-09-20 06:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by Stephen 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Ok so you learned your mom means business. Next time you want to scare her into the afterlife, just jump out of a closet. I imagine she saw herself having to identify your dead mutilated and ravaged body in a morgue someplace. How selfish of you to hurt her like that. Apologize and start taking responsibility for your actions. I hope it did hurt, maybe you will think twice before doing something so stupid again.
Oh and she's doing it now because obviously nothing else has made her position clear. Come home when you are supposed to, if she ever lets you out again.
2007-09-20 06:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I am against spanking but I would probably do the same thing. You were 3 hours late. She was worried you know. And you didn't even bother to call her and let her know that you will be late. You'll understand when you have your own kids.
2007-09-20 07:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by DoLz 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋