I work with around 40 people at a doctor's office in a urgent care setting. Therefore I do not see everyone all the time. There are a few that I am close with outside of work who will automatically get a mailed invite. The others who I work with, I am not close with them at work or dont really ever see. Do I have to invite them? Females can be so catty and gossip and I dont want to hurt anyone feelings (if that would happen at all).
If I worked in seperate departments it would be different but we dont have that here. Most of the females here that i dont talk to outside of work would only come to be nosey since thats how they are.
2007-09-20 05:41:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I used to work in a doctors' office with about 60+ women. The way we did it there when we knew one of the girls would be getting married soon (because word travels pretty fast!) was the bride-to-be would put up one of her wedding invitations on the bulletin board (at the office I worked at, this was the refridgerator in the break room =D). This way, whoever wanted to come could come and the more clique-y people could choose to ignore it.
If you need a definite head count, this could turn tricky. But then, that's what putting RSVP on the invitation is for!
Good luck!
2007-09-20 05:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have some interesting responses to your question. I would not have thought about posting the invitation.
As for me, I when I was married in 1988, my husband-to-be and I worked in the same dept. We didn't have a lot of money. So, we invited the people in our department + a guest. We explained to the others that our funds were limited. Most understood. The staff in our dept. gave us a wedding shower and invited women from other departments (who were not invited to the wedding). Everything worked out o.k.
Most people will understand that funds are limited and not everyone will receive an invitation.
Invite whomever you want. It's your wedding and your budget. Have a good time.
If you want to do something later, like have an open house or a holiday party, then invite everyone. It's not the same, but it's a nice gesture.
2007-09-20 06:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts on this are:
Invite those people in your life that have made a difference or whom have touched you in some special way. Those that have been there for you.
I do not feel you need to invite everyone you work with.
If the gossip wagon runs, simply apologize that your budget was limited and you could not invite everyone however much you would have liked to.
2007-09-20 07:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by dapperdudet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the people you are close to. You are not obligated to invite everyone you work with. This is not a 5th grade party where you have to invite all your classmates.
On another note, please do not expect a "work shower". I used to work at a newspaper office with about 150 people. I got sick and tired of the wedding showers for people I either didn't know or did not get an invitation to their wedding. It got expensive as well. (Same with baby showers for the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th kid).
The rule of etiquette is...do NOT invite people to a shower who have NOT been invited to your wedding...unless you want to look like a social clod.
2007-09-20 07:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by Sally G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The general group invitation on the community bulletin board should be enough for those you work with that you really don't spend much time with. Everyone understands that type of invitation.
You might even post a sign up sheet beside the invite to save them the RSVPing. Posting a sign up sheet also gives you the opportunity to remove it when you need to for final counts. If someone really wants to attend and the sign up sheet has been removed, they will let you know personally and politely beg to be included.
The cats will stay home or wil be working that day. Don't even give them another thought. You have enough on your mind.
CGs!
2007-09-20 06:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
As most people have already pointed out, you don't have to invite anyone you don't want to. But to minimize problems with uninvited co-workers, make it your policy not to discuss your wedding (or your personal life in general) with anyone during working hours. Don't even use your office phone for anything related to the wedding, or take any time away from work (except for the wedding itself, of course.)
2007-09-20 08:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest only inviting those whom you are close to. If the people who wouldn't invite are going to be immature about it, then you will not want them at your wedding anyway. The wedding day will be the first day of your marraige. Therefore, you want people who are actually going to support your marraige and be happy for you during the celebration.
2007-09-20 07:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to invite anyone you don't WANT to invite. If it's someone you aren't around a lot and they're getting up in arms because you didn't invite them to your wedding, then they have bigger issues they need to deal with.
2007-09-20 06:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by J-Dawn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations Jazzy! It all comes down to finances...It is going to be such an unforgettable special day for the two of you. Even with unlimited funds, I would invite only family, friends and special acquaintances. No point in entertaining strangers that do not care for or know me, even if they are co-workers.
2007-09-20 05:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You DO NOT have to invite anyone you DO NOT want to attend.
As for the "bulletin invitation" I think that would be, well, very tacky IMO. They aren't important enough to be sent an invitation do not expect them to RSVP to a bulletin invite. I wouldn't respond to any unless I was hand delivered one or mailed one.
2007-09-20 06:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋