I have got on really well with him for a long time, then one night he tells me that hes Gay and tells me the details about his BF. Its a bit of a shock. What should I do?
2007-09-20 05:31:12 · 67 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Absolutely nothing different than you've done before -- treat him exactly the same. He isn't going to attack you or anything......I'm sure!! If you aren't "comfortable" hearing things he wants to talk to you about (like what he and his bf do together) -- just tell him it makes you uncomfortable and change the subject. He'll understand.
2007-09-20 05:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Nothing has changed, he's still the same person but you have just discovered another detail about him - his sexual preference. If you are a good friend it won't matter to you & you'll still be friends just as you were before. It is normal that you were a bit shocked, but you'll get over it with time, you had just made some incorrect assumptions about him, that's all.
2007-09-20 05:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are a couple of choices here that you could do.
What he told you could have freaked you so bad that you decide not to talk to him anymore and avoid him...
******OR******
You could be thankful that he told you, instead of you just finding out thru the grapevine and accept the fact that he is gay. So what, he is still the same great person that he was after he told you this. He sounds like a good friend to you. I think you know the right choice
Take Care!
2007-09-20 05:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by blondieoftexas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience. My ex told me he was gay after we split up. We grew up together so we were best Friends before that. We tried to keep the friendship going at first but it was a bit awkward but were getting there.you'll start to realise that he's still the same person and nothing has really changed.
2007-09-20 05:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by erika h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you have two choices,you can go on a hate spree and denegrate or you can accept it for what it is. After all he was being honest with you and maybe to his own risk by doing so. He didn't have to but if you want to hate and denegrate that's up to you for whatever gains that may bring. Maybe we should practice what we preach,after all we are all in this world together for better or worse. Now go do the right thing.
2007-09-20 06:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by meander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a test of friendship.
just be a Friend, he's obviously waited until he can trust to tell you this without you freaking out, and clearly wants to remain friends with you, so do just that, be his friend.
it doesn't change a thing, it's not like he's gonna try it on with you or anything, i honestly don't think this is his intention at all.
just because he is gay doesn't mean he's an alien.
xxx
2007-09-20 05:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by sasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now might be a good time to stop going to the naked wrestling classes with him but apart from that just respect his views and as long as he leaves you alone then carry on as usual. Just be glad he has the courage to tell you in the first place.
2007-09-20 05:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do realise that he's exactly the same person he was before you found out he's gay,right?
Are you making passes to all of your friends? I guess not...so if what you're worried about is his making a move on you,remember...he's a friend!
2007-09-20 05:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend do that to me also i ll tell you how i handled it i told him well were still friends right he said yes i said im not gay i dont want to here about sexaul activity you have he said ok then i said we still going to hang out he said yes i told him sounds like nothing really changed to me i evenwould talk to him about his realtionship if he wanted to talk man nothing changes the only differnt is you now know that he likes guys so whats the big deal
2007-09-20 05:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing. just accept it. hes ur friend isnt he? if ur his friend in return u would just accept the fact that hes a little different from you and try to understand as best as you can. just establish firm grounds that ur straight and will just be his friend. and by the way im gay so im actually speaking from personal experience here. just continue being his friend. thats about all u can do.
2007-09-20 05:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Angel of Chaos 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋