This is probably weird that i'm 18, never had a boyfriend, never been kissed and the guy's 19, never had a girlfriend and never been kissed either. But anywya, we both like each other a lot and we already told each other. The thing is, he's so shy, I keep telling him if he ever wants to come over to my apt or go out, just let me know, but when he drops me off after work, he sends me a text a few minutes later saying how he really wanted to hang out but i looked tired or i seemed like i had somehting else do, etc. and once he asked for a hug but I guess he didn't think i was gonna hug him (i was going to) but he said he was joking. i think its pretty obvious that he's gonna be too shy to make the first move, and we're going out tomorrow for the first time (we've know each other for 7 months) so should I kiss him, or wait for him to do it?
2007-09-20 05:28:33 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just relax :-) Things will happen in their own due time. Concentrate on enjoying his company, and let the kissing develop as you go along. There's no time table, there's no rush.
2007-09-20 05:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start slow, maybe squeeze his hand and tell him thank you for the ride? Nothing pushy. You might ask if he could stop at McDonalds, the store or something similar on the way home to pick something up, you don't feel like cooking when you get home or some other excuse, that is another "safe" way to hang out. He can feel he is doing you a favor, not an actual date. The pressure is off that way. It is VERY hard to take friendships or any relationships to the next level. Just remember little steps can travel just as far. I congratulate you for waiting, it is wonderful to hear not everyone is so physically in a hurry. Take it slow and enjoy each others company. Time will tell.
2007-09-20 12:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by onbach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you are going to have to make the first move... but you could do is, instead of just outright kissing him or hugging him or whatever, ask him "do you want to kiss me?" His only answer could be yes. Try to maintain eye contact throughout, but I think he will break it. Don't look away though, that will confuse him. If anything look at him expectantly. If he still hesitates, follow up with "well what are you waiting for?" Try to do this playfully, and at ease. If you are confident, he will mirror some of that and not feel so nervous.
Good luck!
2007-09-20 12:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by truthbeginsasblasphemy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, man, life's too short, kiss the guy! Just start out slow, don't be thinking you're having one of those on-screen, set off the fireworks kisses... just kiss him gently and go from there. You need to get comfortable with one-another and you BOTH need to get over the shyness thing. There's nothing wrong with kissing that I can think of so there should be no hesitation. Do you guys hold hands, sit close, snuggle? Have fun with him, get to know him. He may not be the one to spend the rest of your life with but you have to start somewhere. Best wishes, take it slow, there's lots of time, no pressure!
2007-09-20 12:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by spiffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiss him! He seems too shy to make the first move. Actually, you might want to send subtle hints during your date, such as quickly glancing at his lips from time to time, especially when you are saying goodbye. Also lean towards him slightly. If he doesn't get the hint, go in for the kill first. Hopefully all will go well. Good luck!
2007-09-20 12:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by Moneypenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally think you should kiss him. there is nothing wrong with making the first move. Maybe it might just loosen him up a lil bit and give him the right-away to be a lil less shy and a lil more assertive. but wait until the end of the nite... you never know.... he might surprise you!
2007-09-20 12:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a dilema..... Just make the move!! You only live once, so LIVE IT. Don't wait for him to make a move cause like you said if he's to shy he will never make a move, or he'll take to long to make it & that just sucks. If you like him just go for it. You have nothing to lose, but a whole lot to gain. Your first kiss, confidence, & I guarantee he'll love it. Guys like it when girls take charge, it takes the pressure off them.
2007-09-20 12:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by luv2bhapi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for the opportune moment. Nothing to freak out about. Take your time to get to know each other. Is he shy, or is he lying that he has never been kissed or anything?
2007-09-20 12:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl just Kiss him and make the move and tech him a few things about your body, I was like that when i was his age and my girl friend got fed up with it one night took my car keys and told me that i am spending the night and she told me she is going to make this happen. The best night night of my life. broke a shy guy in.
2007-09-20 12:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by K_LOVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this day and age it doesnt matter who does what first. Wait for the right moment and lean in and give him a kiss, chances are he will lean in and give you one too , so you will both be making the first move.. doesnt matter who does it first , if you keep waiting it wont ever get done.
2007-09-20 12:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋