me and my husband never got each other rings due to the fact that we got married under an intense circumstance. His mother went to Russia to visit family and he had her buy me ring. On my b-day he gave me the ring and it is beautiful but not what i dreamed of. it is 10k yellow gold band, at the top the ends twist together with white gold, the white gold has little .3 diamonds..... this sounds beautiful right..... well here is the kicker, insted of a diamond at the center to accent the .3, there is a big PEARL. it even has matching earings so it gives it a costume jewlery look. they truelly are beautiful but they look like somthing you give your wife of 50 years not your wife of six months who doesnt have a ring yet.....SO WHAT DO I DO SUCK IT UP OR TELL HIM I DONT LIKE IT????? HELP!!!!!
2007-09-20 05:09:28 · 50 answers · asked by amplifyurbeauty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
keep in mind his mother bought it or me in russia and it cant be returned or exchanged
2007-09-20 05:17:54 · update #1
It isn't your wedding ring. First, you husband didn't pick it. Second, it was a birthday gift. Treat it as such. Tell your husband you would still like for the two of you to pick out wedding rings together. You can still wear the other ring on another finger at other times. Don't tell him that you don't like it. (You said that it is a beautiful ring)It is just not a wedding ring.
2007-09-20 05:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would suck it up for right now because a man that would trust his mother to buy the ring is a man that has a respect for women, old and young. I bet he will show you that same trust as you both get older. The next time you both are out and happen through a jewelry store(it happens) point out what you like and mention that that is what you would consider having later on when you renew your vowels. This would show him what your taste is and at the same time will not take anything away from what his mother purchased. If your lucky and he has caught on at all to your dislike of the ring you have I bet he will have that ring on layaway within a few days. Be happy, with or without the perfect ring though, it sounds as if you love him a lot.
2007-09-20 05:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him you love it, but its not what you had dreamed of for a wedding ring. Tell him you always thought that wedding rings should just be diamonds. That you look at other peoples wedding rings (without thinking about it) and if its anything but a diamond it doesn't look like a wedding ring. Or try going out oneday and then come back and tell him that some guy hit on you, you told him no you were married and showed him the ring. He looked at it and said 'oh it doesn't look like a wedding ring sorry'. If you flat out tell him you dont like it, it may hurt his feelings and you dont want to do that since he did make the effort and tried to be nice. My hubby got me an opal to replace the TINY diamond he bought me as an engagement ring. It was sweet and thoughtful and I didn;t want to be mean, but I told him it didn;t look like a wedding ring and I actually had someone hit on be (the 2 excuses above) and he ended up geting me a beautiful almost 3 caret wedding ring and band.
2007-09-20 06:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since his mother picked it out and not him you may be able to get away with saying something.
I would approach it in a positive way though, meaning don't say "this ring is ugly, I hate it, I want a new one!"
Instead, perhaps you can explain to him how soft pearls are and how they require alot of maintenance. Tell him you like the ring as a right hand ring but for a wedding band you want something more durable.
Or you can fudge and just tell him the design of the ring's profile is too high and it has been getting caught on things and knocked around and you are worried it will be damaged if you wear it constantly.
2007-09-20 05:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that you imagined something different on your finger. Even if it cannot be exchanged, it could be sold. You will have this ring the rest of your life. If you need an extra reason, you could tell him that that pearls aren't as durable at diamonds and gold. The pearl may wear as water and sweat get on it. Pearls are just fine for cocktail/ fashion rings and necklaces, but a wedding ring needs something in the center that will stand the test of time like a center diamond.
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2007-09-20 06:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can go to a jeweler and get the pearl replaced with a diamond. Perhaps that would seem like a more traditional wedding ring rather than costume jewelry to you. Replacing one part of the ring will probably be better for him to take than wanting to get an entirely new one.
2007-09-20 05:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him guys you run into at work, in the park...wherever keep flirting with you because they must see the ring and assume I must be still on the market. No man wants to here that guys are hitting on his wife. If money is an issue for another ring and you don't mind cubic zirconia I'm sure you could find a beautiful ring as a very reasonable price. (Ebay, HSN, QVC, and probably countless other sources.) Just one mans opinion.
2007-09-20 05:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him..
My mother-in-law's engagement ring ws a pearl ring, not a diamond because they didn't have the money. some years later she got her diamond, which she wears now with the wedding band; the pearl is in her jewelry box..
Why did his mother buy the ring for him?? Isn't he man enough to buy a ring by himself?? Anyways, you could ask him to upgrade the ring with a diamnond instead of the pearl for your first anniversary if the pearl is the only problem..
2007-09-20 10:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, honesty and communication is key in a relationship esp marriage - so tell him how you feel however firstly highlight all the positives first of your relationship so far.
and make a positive out of it - such as tell him that you want to make the pearls into a family heirloom - the earrings and make the pearl from the ring into a solitar necklace - and replace the space in the ring with a diamond etc.
take a deep breath and be calm pleasant and smile a little
good luck!
2007-09-20 05:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by Trini Trixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh tell him....youve got to live with it the rest of your life! MAybe you could get the pearl replaced with a diamond? Then youd still have the same ring. I always wanted an engagement ring with a pearl in it but only got diamonds...we should swap! Lol!
2007-09-20 05:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋