Can anyone help me out with how to feel okay that I am leaving my children. I mean they are staying with people that I totally trust...but I do not want to ruin our weekend with anxiety of being without my children.
This is in celebration of our 5th anniversary. But we had such a rollercoaster ride in order to get our children...misscarrieages and failed adoptions. I just love them so much....
Any real advise would be appreciated...
2007-09-20 04:49:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Call and check in. Don't let the kids know that you are concerned at anytime and they will have a blast. Most of the time kids like a vacation from their parents too.
You deserve a break and should have fun!
2007-09-20 04:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by Arrica H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely! I am such a neurotic mom and I miss my kids and worry all the time. I never want to do anything without them! :)
That being said, time with your husband is very important because your relationship is the anchor that hold the family in place. You need to make it a strong relationship to make the family stable.
Go on your trip, and know that you will worry! Make sure the people know that you will be calling to check up! Maybe make a specific calling schedule. This helped me the first weekend I spend away from my babies! (and they were with my parents for goodness sake!)
I called at 6:00 every night and at 10:00 every morning I was away.This helped me relax and not worry because I was checking in, and also helped me not feel dumb for worrying because it was all arranged. My parents knew when I'd be calling. It got rid of my anxiety just to be able to check in.
I am sure you will have a wonderful weekend! Celebrate the good times and the bad times you overcame!
Most of all, know that how you are feeling is normal! They children will be fine and you can call and check up.
2007-09-20 05:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every mother goes through this it is hard to leave your children, just call every once in a while and make sure that the person you are leaving them with knows how to contact you. You don't want to make your hubby feel that he is not the center of attention on this special occasion so let him make a few of the calls too. It will get easier with time and just feel blessed that you have someone you trust to leave them with. You two deserve a night out enjoy it. A lot of times after a stressful time like this people that have been unable to conceive come home pregnant after a week just like this so relax and have some fun and remember you can still call once in a while.
2007-09-20 05:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by teresa m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't matter, leaving your children for the first time is hard! But here are some suggestion to make it easier on them thus easier on you. Give each of them an unlaundered t shirt that smells like you, I don't mean dirty, just wear it for a few hours to give it your scent, My daughter, now grown tells me that was such a comfort to her, also give them each a picture of you and the child together for them to look at. Make sure they have their security blankets, whatever that may be, for my daughter it was a doll, for my son it was his "fellas" (stuffed animals)! Let them take their favorite toys and you can always make a video of you tucking them in at night and reading them a story, if it's just a weekend a couple of stories will do, don't for get to look at the camera and tell them sweet dreams, you'll be home soon and that you love and miss them so much! (and you can remind them to brush their teeth!)
Knowing you've done everything you can to make it easier on them will help you relax and enjoy your wonderful husband. The truth is, this is a LOT more traumatic for we moms than it is for the kids! You know the so called experts also say it is good for our children to be able to miss us once in a while.
Try to have a really good time!
2007-09-20 05:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by ReBelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it just takes more times of leaving them to be able to relax without them. Call and check on them like someone else said. And since they are gone a little alcohol can help relax you also. I may get a thumbs down for that but it is true. Good luck and have fun.
2007-09-20 05:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but in order to be a good mama you have to make time for your self and those romantic weekends are a great thing. It's always good to get away and learn how to miss your children. I think in makes a stronger bond between you and the kids. Well that's how it has worked for me. Just go and enjoy your self, and your husband.
2007-09-20 04:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by lovelittlelulu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wanting some alone time with your husband is not an indication that you don't love your children! In fact, it's smart. Many couples get so wrapped up in having kids and raising them that they neglect their own marriages.
2007-09-20 05:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you and your husband for adopting. Just keep in mind that your kids are in good hands. If it makes you feel better, call them every now and again but dont harass them. Maybe let your friends know how you feel so that they wont feel so bad if you call every houor or so.
2007-09-20 04:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by bravenarr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We wouldn't be going away alone! We would always go everywhere as a family.
2007-09-21 02:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
aww thats nice of you, but dont worry have some fun
2007-09-20 05:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by TTC #1 hoping for 2009 baby! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋