Even though my man hasnt proposed i feel it's gonna happen soon is it wrong for me to plan my wedding in advance? stuff like what type of dress?shoes?what kind of a wedding i want? i've always wanted to get married and i think i know how i want my wedding to be.
2007-09-20 03:08:07 · 27 answers · asked by Lobuchu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Usually after the ring is on your finger. I don't see anything wrong with having an idea of what you want . . . but you'll probably scare your guy if you start collecting Brides magazines and have the entire wedding planned.
2007-09-20 03:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by thatgirl 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I didn't really start planning my wedding until I had the ring on my finger. Even though we are getting married in June of 09 I feel it is still going to take that long to find everything we need with a tight budget. I got engaged just this past June and have already gone to the bridal store to try on dresses, booked a location for the ceremony, picked my MOH and am scouting reception sites.
Just be careful to include your man in the decisions you make, that way he won't feel left out.
2007-09-20 07:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is too early, he might run away screaming off into the night if you appear one day with your wedding dress all ready. But you can talk about it, just for fun, see if he wants a religious wedding, or imagine how both your families would behave in such event, who'd get the most drunk, etc. It is a good way to take the temperature of things, if he laughs about it and participates in the imagining, then things are fine, but if he doesn't weant to discuss it and it becomes a tabboo topic, then it's time to discuss things.
Besides, if it didn't happen, that would be a kick in the ***...
2007-09-20 03:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because he hasn't proposed doesn't mean you two haven't talked extensively about getting married right? Hopefully if you want your marriage to last, you have! The proposal is just a formality, a romantic gesture and symbolic, but shouldn't be the first time you find out he wants to marry you! Marriage is supposed to be about communication, why start it off on a shock like that right?
Anyways, since you know you two are getting married already you can start planning. It shouldn't freak him out because you've already decided to get married together and talked about the practical aspects. The less meaningful things like the ring, the proposal and the wedding come last in a healthy relationship. Have fun.
(Oh and if you haven't talked about marriage extensively, don't say yes to a proposal, say let's talk about it and wait on the wedding. Worry about the relationship first.)
2007-09-20 03:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
OMG it's never too early!!!i Mean.. you can plan the entire thing without even ahving a b/f a bit crazy but its your wedding! the only thing is that later on you have to modify it to the grooms wants too and make it work for both of you...but yea it helps to start planning since you need to know more or less how much ur going to spend and a budget and things like that..
2007-09-23 18:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a bit premature to actually start planning but dreaming and knowing what is around that is quite OK
I've known a long time what I wanted for a wedding dress even before I met the man of my dreams he has not proposed yet but I would consider that in dreaming house not the planning house.
2007-09-20 03:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by MissE 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well have you two talked about marriage??? If you haven't, you might consider doing that...
But other than that, I don't see any reason you couldn't start planning and getting ideas! I would suggest you didn't do it blatantly in front of him...some men can find that too much pressure ;) On the weekends go to bridal shops w/ your friends or flip through bride magazines...there is NOTHING wrong w/ planning/dreaming about your wedding :)
Hope he pops the question soon!!!
2007-09-20 03:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with thinking about what you might like. You shouldn't "plan" anything until you are engaged. Just because you know how you want your wedding to be, doesn't mean your future fiance would want the same things. It is not going to be just your wedding, it would be his wedding too. Good luck.
2007-09-20 03:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok to discretely begin collecting ideas, but I wouldnt make an issue out of it or really let on that you are doing anything, it may be a turn off to him and make him think that all you want is the wedding and not just him. Also, I wouldnt tell anyone anything because if something goes wrong and it doesnt actually happen you dont want the embarrassment of having to tell people that its not going to happen.
2007-09-20 03:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe planning is premature, but at least jotting down some ideas about what you'd like would be fun. Maybe make a collage of photos that inspire you or get a few bridal magazines or a book on wedding planning. I'd keep it low key, cause there is nothing wrong with dreaming!!! Good luck!!!
2007-09-20 03:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋