I feel very depressed. I lost my job and now it's all i can do?

Question

to even get up and wash dishes or laundry and feed my cats. When my pets come up to me I don't want them around. My money is running out and I have been looking for work but feel very discouraged. I want to sleep a lot and feel very depressed. Can anyone give me advice. I think I am lazy but I usually am not like this. I feel so dragged down.

Answer 1

Hi Kate,

I feel your pain! I remembering being out of a job for a long, long time and I just became lazy and depressed too. But you know what? Don't worry about it. I know it's tough but there's plenty of things you can be doing. For instance, just going out and grabbing a local paper, looking at the jobs sections for a start.

Also, you can visit websites for your local area and start handing your CV / Resume around, and this will generate interest.

It's tough because now you're being hard on yourself for not having any income, but the first step on the road back to recovery is just simply cheering up and looking forward optimistically - I've no doubt myself that you will find another job and start working again, as I can tell you're unhappy right now but also intelligent enough to do something about it - you asked us! So now take the next step yourself and go out there, get some fresh air and start looking for work.

Good luck! =)

Answer 2

I've been there after I got laid off from my first favorite job.

I got depressed and stayed on medications for a while, it only help for a little while.

I felt like want to sleep all the time but I would suggest a few things that would help you get going:

1. always hang out with your friends or relatives (spouse) who makes you feel better. talk to them about your concerns and feelings.

2. make a list of chores to do everyday (before you go to bed at night), so you have a reason to wake up in the morning. and try to complete those tasks on the list.

remember! no task is too small. example: cleaning your room or doing laundry sounds small and NOT important but it'll help you.

I started to do laundry for both my wife and I ever since and start to enjoying it.

you'll get better. trust me! don't ever give up.

oh yeah! on your to do list, you must have a goal to contact/look for a job (contact at least 3 companies or recruiters) per day!!!!

"looking for a job is a job"

Answer 3

I lost my job of 14 years and it was the worst day of my life. I cried for days. I never thought it could happen to me.
Luckily I had the support of a very close friend, my family, and my doctor to get me through it. I filed for unemployment, did a few odd jobs for extra cash, and it took four months before i found another job. I went on so many interviews and got so discouraged. I thought no one would ever hire me again.
Honestly, I learned to use the time when i wasn't looking for a job for me, and i now remember it as a special time that i got to have just for me, when i didn't have to report to a job everyday, and i was able to do somethings i wouldn't have been able to do if i was working.
I did get on an anti-depressant and it helped tremendously. i also started walking and that really helped my energy level. plus, i could walk while everyone else was slaving away at work!
It may take a while to find the job you really want, but hang in there and do whatever you have to do to make yourself get out of bed in the mornings and do something! Take care!

Answer 4

you need to force the positives into your life sweetie!
Yeah the cards you have right now is a pretty crapy hand i think most of us have been delt that hand!

But if you focus on that you will stay there!(look at my mom)
Yes looking for a job is hard work!
ensure you follow up and try to explore more options you can do anything!

Lazy -- ummm if you don't want to be then get up!

I think you should take up some exercise while you feel like this it will help you feel better!

and if you feel that this rut is taking you over then see someone professional!

Coping.org free help ( got me out of a depression) and gave me more then I expected! (soul searching)

Answer 5

We all get "dragged down" every now and then. It does sound like you are depressed, so I suggest that you go to the doctor and speak with him/her about options for you.

Don't give up... every day make a goal. Today, I will do a load of laundry, etc. You have to fight through the tough times. I speak from experience, believe me! Just continue to believe in yourself and know that in time you will be back to your old self. Hang in there!!

Answer 6

think about the good stuff in life...keep on lookin for a new job. instead of wakin up and do the same routine all the time...get up take a nice shower/dress well...and get out of the house..spend the day out lookin for a job/buy newspapers/ if u stay most of the time inside the house ull get depressed bcuz theres nothing else u can do. and think the other side of story u only lost ur job but ull b able to find another one soon

Answer 7

See depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2. No daytime naps! Check out local businesses, the internet job sites, and ask friends and family. Take any work you can get, (dishes in restaurants; cleaning offices, hotels, babysitting etc., even the more lucrative online surveys) at first, then look for something better.

Answer 8

It is awful...a month ago i was diagnosed with depression.. i wanted to do anythng and everything to get rid of it...Dr put me on 20mgs of sri's (low dose for a big man)...and after a month of sticking with them...i feel a whole lot better...(less anxious and worried and i am more alive throughout the day and don't want to sleep at 1 oclock in the afternoon)...

i am not suggesting you do it, it is up too you...but i am very glad i did it.

Answer 9

I agree with Henry, don't hesitate to seek some counseling, one or two sessions could make a huge difference. And remember getting up is the hardest part... so if you find yourself sulking around the house try to find it in you to just get up and walk outside and even if you don't go far you went further then you would have sitting around the house.
Counseling is great thats my first recommendation, but I am a firm believer in self- empowerment and I think you have to be willing to help yourself and don't be afraid to turn inward to push yourself to think more positive to get active and smile for no reason... it'll make a difference.

Answer 10

Just think it could be worse, so try to get your spirits up, go out look for a job, when you are TRYING you feel better than just sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself.

Everything works out for a reason, and you will get a job, keep pushing!