How do I go about finding a child I was made to give up for adoption 23 years ago?
I have no details apart from I gave birth and signed adoption papers, as I was brought up as a strict catholic and my baby was born when I was just 16 everything was organised by the church.
2007-09-20 00:42:34 · 36 answers · asked by Jessica 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
Oh bless you - I have no real answer for you my love as I luckily was brought up in a household like the waltons! - can you not start with the adoption agency that handled the adoption?
I hope and pray that someone else has more answers than me.
My thoughts are with you - have a star, if I could give you 100 I would.
Best of luck xx
2007-09-20 00:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by nickynoodles33 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm a bit confused - not sure from some of the answers whether you're in the UK. If so, you could try Norcap - a charity for adults affected by adoption. They were a great support to me; even though my search took place in Australia, they were able to give me general advice on where to look and which organisation to contact over there. They should be able to advise you on how to start looking. http://www.norcap.org.uk
I'm sorry some people have chosen to thrust their personal opinions at you. Everyone responds differently to adoption and only you can decide what is best for you. I would only advise you to think long and hard about why you want to contact your child, and what you hope to get out of it. It sounds like an obvious question, but when my natural father asked me I realised I hadn't thought beyond "I want to see my biological family." Good luck to you.
2007-09-24 22:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by mbaya 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if the social services were involved usually your child would be given a memories ( life story) book which may result in the child contacting you however it seems you were orginised by the church usually the church has records of every birth deaths marriages and adoptions i would start at the church and work from there, if you have no luck with that try your county council they should have records if it were a recent adoption i could possibly give you better advise however your question is for years ago and times have unfortunatly changed but still should have documentation of the avent good luck
2007-09-22 10:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by jerky jerky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find this very disturbing! I am adopting a newborn that is due any day know. I myself started out doing a closed adoption but throughout her pregnancy I just had to meet her! We took her for dinner and I really felt for this mother . I am now wanting to include her from the very beginning. This child will always know who she is and where she is , because that is my duty as a adopting parent! What is best the the child! This baby will know he has two mothers that love him dearly. Well as for finding your child, what ever state you are in should have a , adoption reunion registry! Say if you lived in Florida the registry number is 1-850-488-8000 . If you do not live in Florida you can still call this number and they will help you find the number for your state. I really do fell for you! I hope this information helps you find your child that you loved so much that you spared your own feelings for him or her! Good luck in your search!
2007-09-25 01:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by kelly d 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, ignore the negative comments from La Puta etc. who sounds as if if he or she has a hidden agenda. Note to La Puta: If you haven't been in the position don't under-estimate the social and family pressures brought to bear even as recently as 23 years ago.
In the United Kingdom, get NORCAP involved. See www.norcap.org.uk for more. They can act as intermediary between you and your birth-child. You won't have to pay (though as it's a charity any voluntary contribution would be accepted and proper receipt issued).
Social Services for the area where the adoption occurred is another good place to start.
Put yourself on the register of birth parents willing to be approached by their adopted children - again, this will be done through intermediaries so you may not find out your child's present name, at least to begin with.
Best of luck in your search.
2007-09-24 03:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by FanDangle 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are in England (or Wales), The General Register Office has an Adoption Contact Register. This is for parents & children that have been through the adoption process to register an interest in finding their biological families. Of course this will only be of any immediate use if your child has registered already. However if you register, then perhaps one day your offspring wil search for you & find you on the register.
As an adopted child myself, I have yet to decide wether to register or not.
I wish you good luck.
2007-09-20 00:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by Flash 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a web site for birth parents or the child can sign up and as soon as i find it I will answer again if i can. The church probably won't help nor will SS. I bet the child is already looking for you and I hope you find who you're looking for.I too got pregnant at 16 with twins no less and got kicked out of the house by my very Catholic mother. My twins are now 28 yrs old. Just remember, you did a good thing.
2007-09-20 00:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by just me 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to contact the Social Services Department for the county or London Borough where the child was adopted - I think even church adoptions had to have SS approval. Failing that, contact the church concerned.
2007-09-20 00:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by fengirl2 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Register at all the sites you can find. Contact the adoption agency/church organization. Get lots of support for the emotions that searching raises. Good luck!
2007-09-27 12:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by mlassi65 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, god bless you . I am adopted, and I found my birth mum through a website called missing you. You can put a message on to that site saying that you would love to meet your child, with as many details that you have about the adoption, and your child's birth date and birth name. Maybe your child knows they are adopted, and may log into this site, or maybe someone your child is close to may read it, either way, you have nothing to lose. Good luck to you, I hope you find your baby x
2007-09-20 06:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by June S 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋