I've been with my girlfriend for about a year now, but i've noticed that whenever we go out for food she always orders Junk food. Double Cheeseburgers, Fried Chicken, Fries, Pizza with Extra Cheese, Chocolate fudge cake... the list is endless!
Recently i've noticed that her skin has become oily... and she has gained about 15 lbs and a dress size since i started going out with her.
Although i dont mind her eating junk food, its becoming more frequent and i feel like banning her from eating junk food... like tell her she can have it once a week or something.
Shes even got gym membership but she never goes... ive asked her to come with me but she cant be bothered. I'm afraid she might end up fat!
What can i do to improve the situation?
2007-09-19 23:20:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, don't be stupid and tell her she is fat! You will really hurt her feelings and possibly loose her! If you care for her, like it seems you do, help her. Read some books on how to stay healthy and tell her you are concerned about her health. Maybe take her to the dr. for a check-up. If she has high cholesterol, high Blood Pressure. or even diabetes, the Doctor will tell her that canges need to be made. It is always better coming from a Dr. than someone you are close to!
Also, go to the library and get some weight watchers cook books, start cooking her healthy meals, and if you go out, take her to places where there is no junk food! You can also remind her tha by eating more healthy, she will save money now and in the long run if she isn't buying tons of medication to fix problems she has developed or could easily develop. You may also want to offer a non-food reward, if she looses a dress size, you will take her out for one new outfit to celebrate. Be prepared to work with her!
2007-09-19 23:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by chefddr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and good morning....This is sad...not your gf and her eating habit but your complete attitude on the subject. Ok so she is eating the wrong foods. Sometimes there is a reason for this. Is she depressed? Possibly stressed out on something? Have you been making comments on her eating? If so, this might be the reason on why she's eating as such. What bothers me is this...You have been together for about a yr. now right? So you must really care about her..correct? Then accept her for who she is and what's in her heart. Physical appearance isn't the most priority it's how that person is on the inside that counts. If you are going to down grade her due to the possibility of her becoming 'full-figured' or FAT as you call it then you need to find yourself a Barbie Doll type of woman. A fake in other words. So she doesn't go and work out...so...and? I hate to say this but you need to grow up some and face some reality. Let's suppose the two of you got married and after a length of time she became wrinkled and not as appealing as she was..are you going to divorce her due to her appearance? You are narrowed minded if you said yes. You need to realize that not everyone has a perfect weight and a person changes through the years. If you are so worried about her gaining weight because of your feelings and not on health issues then you need to find someone else and let her find someone who truly loves her for whom she is. Sorry so blunt but I'm only speaking the truth. Have a great day!
2007-09-20 02:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have the right to tell anyone what they can do. What you need to do is tell her that you are concerned about her health, and that from here on out, you would like for the both of you to eat more healthy. Suggest that you and she make a point of eating salads for dinner at least 3 nights a week, and eat only broiled or boiled foods the rest of the week. Tell her that once a week you would like to see her treat herself to something sweet such as a piece of cake or pie, because you know that she enjoys something sweet every now and then. Tell her that this will keep the cholesterol down and prevent heart disease. If she does not agree, then there is really nothing that you can do other than to split, if you don't love her enough to accept her as she is.
2007-09-19 23:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the girl. There are different ways to approaching it. Throwing a simple line out, "Why do you eat so much?" next time you take her out and she eats a lot of junk food should be enough for her to realize your not fond of her eating habits. If she doesn't react and ask if your concerned about it, or cut back on the food eating, then it's going to take a lot of work to stop her from this. And depending on you, you may want to move on at that point unless you think it's worth delving deeper.
2007-09-19 23:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sandfrog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't ban a grown up in possession of all their mind to do what they want.
I don't know much about the measures in Great britain or America as I'm French, but you seem to be worried about her and obviously if someone lives on junk food, no matter how sporty they are, it's bound to be bad for them, let alone if they don't do any sports activity.
You do need to choose your words carefully though, and sit down with her and tell her how you feel about her choice of food and the changes you have noted in her.
It is important to tell her that she does look good, but it may not last if she carries on the way she is.
Also, do not forget to let her know that you know that obviously you are aware that her body is going to go througth changes as she is going to get older and possibly with pregnancies and it is going to be natural, isn't it? only in the meantime, you'd just like her to look after herself.
Good luck.
2007-09-19 23:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how u feel. It's bother me too if i were u. I like slim, lanky men but my present bf is rather plump. I make fat jokes all the time, especially about his stomach. He plays football every other day so am not too worried. But, ur gf eats a lot & doesnt exercise. That's not healthy, & that's not even talking about looks. You shld tell her she's harming her body, but say it in such a way that says 'it's not about u being size zero i care about, it's about u being alive & healthy'. She might react at first, but with time hopefully, she'd understand. All my friends that overeat, i tell them all the time. When i eat too much too, my friends tell me. So, if she's ur friend, u shld tell her out of love. Ain't nothing wrong with that
2007-09-19 23:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by Hmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way you do it you may hurt her feelings. Try to head away from places that have junk food that may help try and eat only good food in front of her. Maybe that will help or you could try talk to her but are you worried about her appearance or her health
2007-09-19 23:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her as NICELY as possible that your worried about her health and the way she eats junk food none stop. Don't mention the word fat until its necessary!There is a chance she might freak out but someones got to do it!
2007-09-19 23:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kawaii-Kitty! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Eat it?? WTH! Do you even be aware of what the heck a Clit is?? I guess not if that is what you said to her. Geez.. Are you even historical enough to claim these variety of matters?? I'm sure she is aware of what the heck her clit is and he or she thought you have been an fool for announcing whatever like that...
2016-08-04 16:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to read the question, I just needed to read the first part.
Love her for who she is, it is on the inside that counts, if you are acting like this and can't talk to her about this and have to come on here for us to know about the eating habits of your girlfriend, I feel sorry for you.
If you have this kind of attitude, then maby she does not deserve you!
2007-09-19 23:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋