Cutting...?

Question

I have often thought about cutting myself... I only crossed my mind when my parents divorced... I almost did once and then my friend walked in so I didn't... Does anyone have any advice for me... I kinda fell it will be the only pain I can control... So please help...

Answer 1

Hello! I use to self-cut. I self-cut because my parents fought all the time and most of the time, they fought over me (i.e. one parent sticking up for me and the other one was against me). It caused me a lot of stress and I couldn't control their constant fighting, so I blamed myself for their constant fighting and started to self-cut. When I self-cut, I found great relief immediately afterwards, but then about a half hour later, I felt worse than I did before I cut myself. So I went to the doctor who sent me to a therapist to deal with all the issues going on in my life (especially at home with my parents!), and I am now free from self-cutting. Talking to a concerned therapists truly helped me to see that everything wasn't my fault, and the therapist helped me to emotionally distance myself from my parents so that I did not "own" THEIR problems as my own.

Please see your doctor, who I am sure will send you to a therapist. And just an FYI-your therapist cannot-by law, tell your parents anything you say to them because it is against the law for a therapist to tell anyone what you tell them. So you are safe talking about your inner most problems with your therapist.

Good Luck! (and NO, you are NOT crazy!)

Answer 2

Obviously your parents divorce affected you..
Probably left you in alot of pain, and since they are dealing with divorce you probably feel "not there"?

How will you know I'm hurting
If you cannot see my pain?
To wear it on my body
Tells what words cannot explain.
-C.Blount

Does that maybe hit home? Maybe you feel as if you can't control your family situation , but what you can control is your pain and what you put it. But to put it simply, you can't control it. Cutting is a very serious thing, you may do it once or twice but it will only make easier for you to do again the next "problem" comes up.

I'm speaking from my own experience. Once you do that first cut, its not going to make it easier.. And you might feel a temporary "control" but after the blood stops reality is still there.. I started when I was 13...started out with one or 2 a day..then went up to 15 a day till I was 19. Some were so deep I lost nerve damage, and have over 600 scars. People look at me different everyday for it.. If you can avoid it at ALL COSTS PLEASE DO.

There should be a crisis-line number in the phonebook, they won't think your crazy for doing this. Or if you have a close friend tell them, or even one of your parents.. But please don't do it, because it's not easy to pull yourself out of it..

Think of it almost like drugs..It's a band-aid to a real life problem. Most people say they can control their drug use but can they really?
In all honestly you might feel this is the only way..But its not, please call someone anyone to talk to before you decide to do this :(

please take care

Answer 3

This means for you that your parents divorce was a traumatizing factor in your life. As divorces can often be traumatizing for many people and children. The fact that you haven't cut yourself yet is good. But I do believe you do need to be in some kind of program. Perhaps talking things out with a psychiatrist, therapist, group sessions or support group. Working through the problem that stems the greater issue, like cutting, before it becomes an issue is good. The fact that you've realized there might be a problem here before there is a serious problem is very healthy. But you now need to take the steps to prevent it from turning into something worse as these things manifest and become an addictive compulsion that can lead to severe depression and possible attempted suicide. So take care of yourself, discuss with someone and let them help you get on the path to getting treated.

Always take care of yourself first and foremost.

Answer 4

i used to cut myself , and im over it now ,even though it crosses my mind like u say , but trust me u dont have to do it , it only brings more pain and harder time . u might think it gives u happiness and puts u off stress right away but it lasts for few mins and then its over and the circle goes back again till ur body turns to be a map ! . the best thing u can do is to say that no matter what is happening in ur life ,u will fix what u can fix, no matter what other bad things happen, ull try to be the one in control of ur life and put a goal infront of u so u wont be only empty from inside . u also have to see a doctor or a counsler cuz they do help a lot

good luck

Answer 5

I've cut before, still trying really hard to stop. It's not the answer. If you're having problems cutting will only end up making things worse, because there ARE people who love and care about you and you WILL hurt them more than you hurt yourself. I've gone through those rough patches too, but all you have to do is either find strength in yourself or someone you can trust and you'll make it through it eventually... might take a while, but it's better to work through things.. not avoid them.

Answer 6

Don't do it.

I used to do it all the time, on my wrists once and had to go to hospital, it was horrible!!I have scars all over my arms and they look awful!It's not worth it.I'll admit it did make me feel better for about 30 seconds, but then I felt sh*t again.It really doesn't help.

If you're feeling pain and think you need help see a counsellor.My parents aren't divorced so I can't say how you feel, however I was raped twice, when I was 8 and when I was 14.And that's what made me feel terrible, all I wanted to do was cut myself......and I did.But now, I'm 19, I regret ever cutting myself, my arms look disgusting all scarred.

The best thing I did was to see a counsellor, go to your doctor, tell them how you feel and they'll refer you to a counsellor.That really was the best thing I ever did.She helped me so much.I haven't and never will get over that pain, but she helped me come to terms with it.

Honestly, don't do it mate, see a counsellor.
Good luck
Take care x

Answer 7

Your last sentence really struck a cord with me.... This is exactly why some people engage in self harm .
If you have never done that then it is a good idea not to ever try it. Thinking is very diffent then doing , so please keep fighting off the temptation of wanting to harm yourself. It is very hard to stop once you start. And it will only bring on temporary relief... AND it is not really a way to cope with stress .

Answer 8

I had this problem for a really long time,my best friend Chameron recently tried committing suicide this way it didn't work thankfully.Anyway,you should try and get some help.Keep your mind off of it,or get some type of medication.The only thing that stopped my friends death was his boy friend finding him,if you try this you might not be that lucky.Get some help from friends,or professionally.

Answer 9

I suggest;

a) looking at the situation clinically. What is the reason you've resorted to those thoughts? Is there anywhere else you can turn.

b) Talk to someone. If you feel incapable of talking to a friend or your parents/siblings, then talk to a stranger who can look from a different point of view.

Answer 10

Ehhhh don't do it, it's silly and potentially dangerous and people will think you're weird and also you might get addicted. Find something else to do instead when you feel like that, or even see a counsellor.

If you do, then make sure it's private, and make sure you can control the depth and know how to sterilise and treat wounds.

If you need to chat I'm here. And I know what I'm talking about.