See, my dad's never really "worked" in his ******* life.. my mom basically supports him.. and this has been going on ever since I was born, which was 18 years ago.. and it's just sad because my mom is a damn hard worker and we've gone through hell with my dad, [being a drug addict and abuser and such] so our lives have been screwed in many ways... we've been dirt poor all because of him.. all our money would be gone to him for drugs.. there's just alot he's done that is quite hard to forgive.. 4 of us 5 kids are all adults but we want to help our mom out with this problem that we've had for years.. we just no longer want him here with us.. we tell him to leave but just wont' .... and we feel if we ALL confront him at once, their will be physical confrontation and we dun want that....
is there any hope???
>_>
2007-09-19 22:15:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have your mom file for divorce and when the divorce is final have the cops take him off and then change the locks and make sure he has no way to get in . Or the other option would be to have your mom sell the house after the divorce and get herself a place in another city so your dad has no idea where she is . I hope all works out dear . good luck .
2007-09-19 22:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't shoot the messenger, but perhaps you could apply some understanding to your father. I've worked with people who abuse some sort of substance, and their lives are initially crippled by an event or a series of events that resulted in much psychological damage. Whilst it's not his fault that he is the way he is, it is his fault that he isn't doing anything about it. Unfortunately, your mother is only enabling his behaviour but not taking action. If he's not going to leave, then perhaps she should, if that's what she really wants. As an adult, you are now responsible for yourself. Keep your focus on your life and your future, and maybe by setting a decent example, others in your family will follow your lead. We are either followers or leaders. Chose your battle, and chose wisely, otherwise your life could be crippled by this situation....and that would be such a sad waste. Best wishes.
2007-09-20 07:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by thequeenofthesilverdollar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello and let me say you can get help through crisis centers in your town go talk to them tell them your issues and see if they can help in some way ..some people do not understand what is like to live with a drug addict/alcholic it is hard very hard ....or call the abuse hotline and tell them whats going on there is always someone to reach out to that can help yous i wish you good luck and the best ...
2007-09-20 06:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by pepsifan62003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and let your mother live her own life. At 18 you are old enough to know this is none of your business.
2007-09-20 09:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn him in for using drugs, or move your mother out into another place, have her to file for divorce.
2007-09-20 05:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is something that your mom will have to do, if she has a problem with it she needs to tell him to leave, i really dont think that is a choice that you are your siblings can make for your mother.
2007-09-20 05:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by pink_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not see any respite in your problem. However, why do not you consult drug rehab center in your city.
2007-09-20 05:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't want to leave then be the one to leave. leave him there and go somewhere else. let him die siting on the couch watching tv all day
2007-09-20 05:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋