i have a friend, we arent that close but i have known her for many years
recently, she told me she was bisexual
she has been 'going out' with another girl
they walk around holding hands, hug alot, that sort of stuff
sometimes near me
nothing rude or obscene or anything!!
Many Christians believe that being homosexual is wrong and that homosexuals are mortal sinners and we should not affiliate with them etc. etc.
however, i do not want to discriminate against my friend and her 'girlfriend'
i treat her the same, but it does bother me
i cant change who she is and whats she wants to do. its her life.
i would like to accept my friend for who she is
has anyone been in this situation before and can help me out?
comments appreciated
if you hate homosexuals, please dont answer
im not a gay basher and never will be!
God bless and thankyou!
2007-09-19 21:41:36 · 22 answers · asked by Robin 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
as Christians, shouldnt we all love one another
'love your neighbour as you love yourself'
2007-09-19 21:42:21 · update #1
i dont think we have the right to judge others
2007-09-19 21:42:58 · update #2
do you think people choose their sexuality or are born with it?
2007-09-19 21:43:30 · update #3
i never said that i hated her or wanted to change her
i just want to know how to deal with it so we will keep being friends
i want to keep being her friend and dont want to judge
2007-09-19 21:59:51 · update #4
thankyou for your understanding
i really appreciate this. its helping me
2007-09-20 00:48:08 · update #5
We are all sinners. We are all born with a sin nature.
We can not be perfect but through the atonement afforded us by Jesus.
It is the reason Christ did come to the world.
God does not tell us not to love anyone.
We are not a persons judge as far as condemnation to hell.
We should love everyone it does not mean we have to agree with their lifestyle.
It is certainly her free will choice to live her life as she chooses.
If you love your friend her lifestyle should concern as you say it bothers you.
I would not forsake my friendship with a person knowing that they have chosen a lifestyle of sin the odds are that we would drift apart.
God loves us all and is dealing with each of us.
My advice would be to pray to God and give to him your concerns and do as he leads you. I would definitely keep my friend in my prayers. I would pray that she comes to know God and that he would have his will in her life. God bless.
2007-09-19 22:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by djmantx 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a Christian but still willling to share my opinion with your situation because I also have lots of homosexual friends and I love them all!... I have lesbian friends as well and there is a point that I have been courted by a straight lesbian.... And I never treated her as an enemy nor disgusting person.. Infact I befriended her and until now we were good friends....
There is also a point in my life that I thought I was a lesbian too... For I am sometimes attracted to my same gender and nearly fell in love with my girlfriend or best friend... But when I was courted by my former boyfriend and also fell in love with him I realized that I am a straight woman....
But, as what you have said, love your neighbor as you love yourself.. the word neighbor is not literal as we know, I never discriminate them, they are also humans like us that we must appreciate.. They are good people and it is not their fault if they became homosexuals....
Sometimes, they were born like that and some were just confused... As an advice you should still accept her and don't be bothered, there is a chance that she might fell in love with a straight man... there are situations that gays married real women and lesbians married real men...
If you are a real friend you can accept all her flaws... Stay the same as you are in treating her... The thing that you "want to change her" could only push your friendship in to end....
Love her as you love yourself... Hoped I helped...
Blessed Be!
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2007-09-19 22:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by Morrigan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is our duty to love others and God's duty to judge our works at the end of time. We didnt create anyone and hence have no right to judge. However, God doesnt expect us to gloss over truth or deny our faith in a bid to be "politically correct". We can tell people the truth, like Jesus always did (and yes the bible does say homosexuality is wrong), but people still know we love them and have their best interests at heart. At the end of the day, the best way to live is by example, not by beating folks over the head with condemnation. You'd be surprised that when you live a good life, people of their own accord will come to you for help and direction.
2007-09-19 22:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by mobo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps being a Christian friend will help her see her sin. Not as a homosexual question but purely the sin aspect. No sin is really dirtier than another, that's a human reaction.
How does she feel on the issues of fornication as sin or adultery?
How does she feel about sin in general.
If you can help her face these issues rather than her sexual orientation she can still be saved.
If she is not open to your questions or feelings when confronted with this behavior.
Then get out from amongst them and cast not your pearls before swine.
2007-09-19 21:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Christians, being a bisexual is not really acceptable but the universal teaching of a Christian says that one should love thy neighbor as thyself. If one should not treat others kindly just because they are not "normal" then she is not really following the real Christian doctrine. It is not in the bible to be against anyone, instead anyone should be accepted as Jesus accepted all the sinners. Continue to be with your friend and treat them as you have before, dont change just because of what you thought is wrong.
2007-09-19 21:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by kidnash 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't approve of what she does or who she likes.... it doesn't mean that she is any less of a person than she was before. Furthermore, it isn't really your place to try and change that aspect of her life... even if it bothers you.
And if it really phases you that much.... then be sure to tell her honestly that you're not comfortable with it, and precisely why.... and if she is a good friend then she will understand. I'm not saying she will change it... but at least she shouldn't hold it against you if you don't want to have anything to do with her while she engages in such things.
2007-09-19 21:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lucid Interrogator 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your friend were a drug addict would you condone that, or a Child Molester? I dont think you would. So why not gently explain to her that homosexuality is a sin, adn that she needs to repent. If she were headed down a road with the bridge out ahead would it be more loving to warn her or to say I better not say anything it might offend her!
2007-09-26 12:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by cowboy_christian_fellowship 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all sinners, yes we are. If we know that someone is sinning and do not say anything about it, our sin is worse than theirs.It is our responsibility to help our fellow Christians to right their wrongs. I am not a "gay-basher" I just know what God did to Sodom and Gomorrah. I also know that when I was living in sin, my parents, and Pastor let me know that.
2007-09-24 21:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by roloswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not discriminating against her by not agreing with her values, evenso, it is not up to you to change her, only she can do that with God's backing, you say that many Christians believe that being homosexual is wrong does it really matter what other people think?Actually if you are Christian should you not be more concerned with what God thinks on this subject? He does tell us in his Word the Bible(Romans1:25-29) associating with this friend is not going to win you God's favour because yuou will be sharing in her sin not by actualy partaking in it but by condoning it.You don't need to treat her as different or be nasty to her about ab=ny thing as I said it is not up to you to change her or to judge her, but God's word does say that we need to wach our associations with people who do not have faith in him, even if we are thinking that somehow our association with them may change them, because more often than not, they can change you(1Corinthians15:33)
2007-09-19 22:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by I speak Truth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian...but I don't hate gay people either...Christian teachings tell us that homosexuality is wrong...however, God also tells us to love our neighbors...they dont tell us to choose or discriminate about the type of people whom we should or shouldn't love...besides when a person is gay, doesn't mean he's/she's a bad person already...
2007-09-19 21:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋