My gf of nearly 3 months now is too busy wit her studies in university and i might get to see her only 1-2 times a month. We dont even hold hands or take pics coz she doesnt wanna get too attached to me until she nos that she can handle both her studies and me. I was thinkin of breakin it off and goin for other chicks but one side of me wants to keep fightin on...wat shud i do?
2007-09-19 21:16:18 · 8 answers · asked by Letsgofishing 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she said that she ll break up if this comes between her and her studies
2007-09-19 21:16:41 · update #1
You should admire her and respect her for being so dedicated to getting a good education. she will be a great catch for some guy one day. If you can hold out and be patient, it might be you.
2007-09-19 21:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well only your heart can really decide this one. I can sort of understand her side in wanting to focus on her education and future. It is a very mature decision. ON the other hand you aren’t some puppy she can leave at the kennel and come visit. Is there any reason you two have to be exclusive? Could you agree to see other people? She probably won’t like and see it as you wanting to play away. But, honestly it isn’t fair to expect you to wait around for her.
2007-09-20 04:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lost Leo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should take into consideration why she's studying so hard-university degrees only take on a value when your academic performance is up to par. talk about her dreams when you see her, but it is selfish of her if she does not give you the time and consistently sets her studies before you. a relationship needs communication-tell her what you think and if you are dealing with a long distance relationship make the most of your time together. if she 'doesn't want to get too attached' it sounds as if she doesn't value you too much. if you truly want to be with her talk to her about how you feel about the way things are going. good luck
2007-09-20 04:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by whiteplum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let her go and live her life and figure things out on her own. If all you care about is holding hands and taking pics, I am sure there are other girls that you can find to have fun with, as you should. Life is about having fun at your age. enjoy it. Dont get so hung up on one person that you ruin the rest of your life over it. The girl in university is about to discover herself on her own for the first time. Find something you want to do on your own, so you feel fulfilled by something other then her, something you can rely on for yourself.
2007-09-20 04:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by Meese 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer. If she loves you and cares about you, you should be more important than her studies. I nearly failed everything so i could spend time with my boyfriend, and she should do that for you! But she's even *thinking* about leaving if it gets too hard? Thats ridiculous, if she liked you that much she'd spend every second with you! or she should...and would never think about leaving you..
2007-09-20 04:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Clarity. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if she is too busy with her studies. break it off until she is finished them. at least you can have some fun and not feel as if you are second priority. you at least know she wont be with anyone else if she is concentrating on uni
2007-09-20 04:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by kimmbrella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say break up cause its obvious that shes putting you on her lay away plan. you both have different priorities and she basically told you that she would break up as if nothing. just find yourself a full time girl man.
gl & peace!
2007-09-20 04:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow the advice if Peggy s. it is sound enough.
2007-09-20 04:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋