If you were a poor/lower middle class guy, would you be intimidated in dating a filthy rich girl...?

Question

or it won't bother you at all?

Answer 1

It wouldn't bother me at all, So long as i wasn't put down for not having a lot of money, i'd be comfortable. Naturally i wouldn't want to free load, but if she likes me for me, and i like her, then who am i to say no?

Answer 2

I think people of lesser means are almost always intimidated dating people of great mens -whether they are men or women. I read once that when marriages between rich and poor don't work out, it is usually because the person who started out poor couldn't adjust or feel like they fit in or were accepted by the rich family.

But in the end it all comes down to how much self confidence a person has.

Answer 3

Been there, done that. And it only bothers me when I have to meet the parents.

Edit
It occurs to me that I should elaborate, since there are probably people who haven't been there and done that. Rich girls run to cute, or at least are good at using make-up. They tend to be fun and can be so charmingly desparate.

But, rich parents--especially when Mom and Dad are younger than I am are invariably a pain in the butt. They think I' m just after their money, as if everybody was just like them.

Now, don't get me wrong. I had my gigolo period, just like everyone else. But I was a dinner whore. I never took money or expensive gifts. But it's just so hard to get it through to these folks that all I want is sex.

And then, when they finally do believe me, they get even more upset. I mean, go figure.

Answer 4

Well, I'm a lower class girl dating a middle class guy, and it can be inditmidating sometimes. His family have always made me feel welcome, but whilst they have tertiary education going back two generations before him (he;s 3rd generation), I am part of the first generation of my family to receive a tertiary/university education. I notice a difference not only in material possessions, but opportunities had in life and the ease with which they have passed through certain parts of their life. For exmaple - he never had to work while he was at Uni, his family supported him. I, however, have worked a casual job the whole time through University so I could help support myself. Another example - he was given a car, I paid 50% of the price of my first car. I also notice a difference in behaviour ... while not bieng snobbish, my boyfriend is disturbed by my family's rowdy and often working class behaviour - drinking, loud parties, etc. Coming from a middle class family, their behaviour is much more reserved, but not strict or anal in any way. He has told me that my family do not affect the way he feels about me (I am much more like him than my family in behaviour, mannerisms etc) - it would make him think twice about proposing. Class difference and barriers still come into play, I think.

Answer 5

yup... the difference of social dependence / independence is a big struggle. Even wworse for a man since they´re by nature the supporters of a family and a guy with no money can´t support a rich girl. He´d feel like an ant in her shadow all the time.

Answer 6

LOL, good question. I am not intimidated by any woman, no matter her 'class' or status. To whit: I am a veteran welfare bum, and I married the colonel's daughter; from a fairly uptown, well off family. We've been together for just under 18 years now, and the social class difference is of no importance to either of us. Ain't love grand? It knows no boundaries beyond mutual attraction and respect. Truely, love is blind.

Answer 7

I wouldn't be intimidated, but I wouldn't do it. In fact, I wouldn't bother with asking out anyone, I don't believe. The time needs to be spent on improving the situation, not messing with women, for the most part.

Answer 8

Yes to an extent, you must keep in mind that every event that you would receive a gift at he must get you something good, if your family is rich, chances are you get everything you need, so therefore he must keep coming up with heartfelt gifts to compensate for the lack of spending power, and I must say its hard after a while.

Answer 9

yes...and no. Often filthy rich girls don't behave like their spoiled. Sometimes they are just as down to earth as you. It really depends on their personality, money doesn't always shape how you act. If you like her for her it shouldn't matter, her being loaded is just a bonus.

Answer 10

No, I don't think so - it sounds like a plus to me. I'd know she wasn't after anything but me, and if things worked out in the long run, whatever money she brought into the marriage would only help us have some nicer things.