I am due to go back to work in Feb 08 when my son will be 1. I dont HAVE to go back although of course the money would come in handy. I am just scared that i will leave work and then regret my decision to leave my career behind. I would be putting him in childcare which is one factor swaying me to quit but it is turning out to be a harder decision that i thought.
2007-09-19 20:38:59 · 6 answers · asked by Boo Boo 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I too went back to work when my son was 1. To be honest I wasn't ready and by the time he was just over 2 years old I quit to be a full-time mum. He had a few hours in the morning at a local nursery (to allow myself to tidy the house properly and have a little 'Me Time').
He then started at pre-school 9 - 11.30 . He is starting full-time school from Monday and we are both ready. He, being an only child is now much more confident probably because he has had a little time away from myself and his father most days.
If working 'works' for you then go ahead and don't feel guilty at all. As long as you have peace of mind with your child's carer then go for it. If not stay at home like I did and enjoy your child as much as possible. The time flys (so quickly) and before you know they are in full time education. Good luck.
2007-09-19 20:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a stay at home mom and I loved it! BUT there came a point where I was doing all the parenting and my husband did the working and I basically felt like as a woman I was just a mother and someone who cooked dinner. My youngest daughter turned one in March and I went back to work and I find that not only do I feel more accomplished but my husband gets to be involved in parenting more and he and my daughter have grown much closer. The extra cash is nice too. Regardless of what you choose to do it will not make you a bad mom. Childcare can introduce them to early social skills as well as a structured environment that can get them ready for school. Good luck!
2007-09-20 03:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never intended to become a "stay-at-home mom" BUT it happened nonetheless. And this year I was going to go back to work and found out I'm pregnant and so I'm taking the year off. By the time I return to work we will need the money but I can't imagine trusting anyone but family with my new baby and our family is all too far away for that. All in all, if money weren't a factor, I don't know if I'd go back to work until my child was in 5th grade or so. I like that my job makes me feel I have a purpose but my child does that, too-- in a different way. Figure out what your heart tells you to do and follow through. I'm sure you won't regret it.
2007-09-20 03:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by JustChristi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can, try to go back only part time. That way you will still
keep-up your career skills, and get to interact with adults... but your baby will still have plenty of Mommy-time.
I waited so long to get a "real" job after the birth of my son that it really hurt me financially. I thought I'd be able to just pick-up where I left off... and because I had gotten a degree in the mean-time, I thought I'd be earning even more... Sadly this was not the case.
I wish you and your family all the best.
God bless!
2007-09-20 03:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mel W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't stand the job of stay-at-home mom. No breaks, no benefits, no respect, no pay, no control over your schedule, and no adults to talk to. So I went back to work for my mental health as much as the paycheck.
You need to weigh the cost of childcare versus your income for starters. Secondly, do you feel that the child care you can afford will be good for your baby? In other words, will he be getting loving, individual attention? I would never had taken my kids to daycare, but because I was able to afford a nanny (we lived overseas) and my kids were in their own home, it was an easier decision for me.
In the end, don't agonize too much. Neither staying home or going back to work is the right decision - you have to decide what is right for you. If momma ain't happy, ain't NOBODY happy!
2007-09-20 03:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by Theresa 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I haven't gone back yet. but the screaming and crying and being a mom 24/7 is making me think time away would be awesome... Even if I take a vacation I usually take my daughter... I just can't get away from them. it's my fault though. I'm too attached.
2007-09-20 03:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋