I need my job, my husband and I work separate shifts, only see each other on our day off.(want to spend time with him) Need to see my mom who lives alone in another town, want to see my two grown children(who also have crazy hours at work) and Grandkids(who want Grandma time,who I miss) who each live in different towns,(none too far away, just all in different directions) plus need a litlle time to relax on my day off. How do people do this?
2007-09-19 20:38:22 · 7 answers · asked by seven-11 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Organize and Prioritize! Make a list of all your needs. Highlight the most important things. Scratch off the things that you can live without.
Schedule minor incidentals in the last hour before you leave for work, during your lunch hour or on your way home from work.
Plan a once a month trip to visit different towns on alternating months. Get comfortable exchanging emails with the Children and get pictures posted of the grandkids. Have your children upload little videos of the grandkids.
Grab a book or your favorite tea on the run for a little mini break while you are at work or on the go.
It is good that you recognize the need for balance. See if you can get help from your Children to make it happen.
2007-09-19 22:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that's right. Admittedly I have it better than you seem to (my mother lives next door and my only other family are my cat--Kat--and my dog--Bo). But I work two jobs on 2nd and 3rd shift while my mother works 1st and 2nd and so I never really get that much of a chance to see her. She never gets a day off and while I get some days off they are few and far between.
You might be able to find another job that is more flexible, see about putting in applications around town. One may give you a shift closer to what your husband works. I would avoid telling anyone at work while you look (if you choose to go this route). Keep it simple (just applying online or when you visit a restaurant now and again and such), and maybe luck will help you out on this.
The only other thing that I could think of is that you see about getting everyone to come see you. The grandkids probably wouldn't mind seeing their great-grandmother and you, maybe bringing them along when you visit your mother (I think she may like it as well).
I hope you can work things out, you seem like a great grandmother and a good person.
2007-09-20 03:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Millions do it---It takes a great deal of endurance and deciding is something very difficult. First of all---take care of yourself--YOU are number one..the others know you are busy and that is NO mystery to them. why are they demanding so much time?? You need to set priorities and decide who gets what time. Mom has a phone?? Call at least once a week. Grand kids?? One hour with them is good---then say bye bye I got stuff to do. Go home and take a nice hot bath and take the phone off the hook--45 minutes of heaven !! let your kids meet you at Mc Donalds for a bite to eat--the grand kids will love it--then get up and go home...watch a little TV and catch your favorite shows. If you can't get this done--too bad--they should be trying to help with this--you should realize that they drive too. Make an offer to see them once a month--that's good. Better take care of your husband--second to you--he is your man and that is it--the others will have to wait. smile--relax and keep up the good work--God must love you!!
2007-09-20 03:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good ?!, we have to decide how to balance the both, Family is important to me, so, I tried to balance my one day off, One off day I spent taking care of the house, getting it order, my kids and I, but, I only spent so much time in doing this, the rest of the day was devoted to do what my kids wanted to do, other times, I didn't do anything but rest, my mind and body needed it. That's one of the thing about chores around the house, they r patient, they will still be there after u rest.
2007-09-20 03:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by yawhaneeh53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me I understand. I quit a job for that reason. I just could not balance it all. I need at least two consecutive days off or I am lost!!!
2007-09-20 04:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since millions of working people have the same problem, you have to manage it they way possible. Make a time schedule and part your little free time accordingly.
2007-09-20 03:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what calendars are made for. Spread your time as judiciously as you can.
2007-09-20 03:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋