Do you think interracial couples work harder at their relationships?

Question

I know several and I've been in a few myself, and this seems to be the case, even if the relationship is completely falling apart. What do you think pushes people in a relationship of different backgrounds to make it work?

Answer 1

For some I would say its to prove others wrong. Or the the fact that they wish to rub it in their parents or friends faces whom are against a certain race. I mean I have known some people that will treat me as a friend. But know full well that their parents or majority of other friends they have would not be cool with them dating someone of another race. And every time that person would find someone of the exact disliked race and date them. I mean that is pretty pathetic but that is how some people are.

Now as for myself I haven't really been into a interracial relationship but I would like to be. And what I would say that would have me to keep working at my relaitonship with someone regardless if they are a different race or not is the fact that if I have a strong and deep enough connection with someone beyond what others say or think about us. I am going to try and preserve that as long as I can. I mean if its real love and understanding and caring there. I say everyone else and my family and friends be damned. Because regardless of what outsiders (haters) say I know they are only judging us based on how I a black woman look with a white man or anyone else and I will let them believe all the superficial and materialistic crap they want to believe. Because I know in my heart of hearts that my "man" loves me, really loves me for who I am. We may hit a snag sure or there may even be some doubts. But I am more than willing to talk all this out before diving into a bed or relationship with anyone. I see relationships as something to be strong and proud of if they are meaningful. And if both parties have each other's backs through and through then I see no reason to seperate because of people that wouldn't ordinarily give either of us the time of day until we got together.

Now however as you mentioned when the relationship is falling apart I say other than trying to work out the issues there. And even if that doesn't work you just have to both be adult enough and say this isn't working out. Don't force yourselves together. I mean to do that is like the example I gave above. If you trully know the relationship is not working out end it. But end it on good terms and not on the basis that the guy was a weak white boy, or a overly sassy black woman. There is never a need to promote stereotypes because your interracial experience wasn't fruitful. I say keep your chin up and shoulders back, and keep the pride about yourself. And above all still show respect for other races. We don't need anymore negatives in this world than we already have. So be above the influence and I promise it will set you free form any ignorance.

Answer 2

Interracial couples have more problems, have to work harder at finding couple friends, have more cultural differences so they may have to make an effort to understand and accept the differences and learn how to maintain their separate identities while blending their lives together. Interracial couples I have known have had strong feelings either about what a good person the partner was for them, or a feeling that they are promoting racial harmony by entering an interracial relationship, or perhaps this person is simply the one person they love most for reasons they do not know and since they value the relationship knowing that not everyone approves, they work harder to prove that they can make it work.

Answer 3

YES. It sure does. Relationships are hard enough as is. Now toss in the fact that EVERYBODY is judging you constantly. I have a few cousins in interracial relationship, and it is really tough for them. Even if you have really thick skin, it will eventually wear on you that you're getting looks from everybody you walk by. Sad that we have not come further than that as a society.

Answer 4

I think what pushes them harder from the begining is not only the love they share for each other like normal couples but the fact that the vast majority of society is already against them so it really bonds them together more. Its like a them against the world thing.

Answer 5

not really if both of them were born in the same coutry.

what makes the relationship hard to work out is...
long distance and international.

long distance... if you and your partner lived far away from each other, it would be really hard to spend the time together

international.... if your partner is someone from a different coutry.. there's a language barrier, cultural difference, and it's not easy to handle.

Answer 6

ya, sometimes. because they have different backgrounds...and you know differences make distance. but of course it can be successful, if you really care about each other and have the mental preperation to accept some differences.

Answer 7

you recognize that old asserting :colour is barely dermis deep", nicely that is actual. our bodies do no longer know the version between races.. All our bodies function a similar way regardless of race.. i'm hispanic and my husband is black.. we concieved 3 months after combating my BC pills. so i might say deffinately no..

Answer 8

They have to jump more hurdles to stay together. People that get though hard times together, tend to form a more solid bond.

Answer 9

if people really care for each other, things like race wont matter.

it would only really matter if there is some kind of exterior conflict- like the man's dad being very racist towards his son's black girlfriend.

Answer 10

did you really waste 5 points. i think you want to hear your doing a good job

great job