See It In His Face and Body Language..Does he still care about his ex??

Question

This is a question I am asking to settle something with a friend.

Her b/f of six months has an ex girlfriend that he broke up with four years ago...they dated for four years, and even lived together. They grew up together, and their families know one another......all that stuff.
When he's asked about his ex he gets nervous, stumbles around his words, and gets a little red faced, and even sometimes snippy.

What is his problem?? I mean...someone will say, "Oh you used to date so and so right??
And he gets a little frazzled.

Now, be honest...and use common sense. How can you say you are over someone and still have THAT kind of reaction to a simple question when their name is mentioned???

He still has feelings, doesn't he??

Answer 1

yes he has some sort of feelings. feelings of hurt or shame or soemtning it seems. maybe he realized he treated her poorly and he regreted it because she dumped him.

the description doesnt sound like someone who is dreamilly reminicing about his sweet. it just sounds kind of nervous and agitated which leads me to think guilt or anger or shame or something.....

maybe she dumped him and found someone new right away??


also consider what they say about breakups: it takes 1/2 the length of the relationship to fully get over someone. did he start dating the friend right away? maybe he wasnt even over her yet.....and still isnt but is currently "distracted" (no offense) by someone else which helps him deal with the pain and makes him THINK he is over her.

but no, he clearly isnt

Answer 2

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Answer 3

That's not the feelings.... that's the memories
No matter what, no matter how, no matter where, no matter when no one can eras his memories even if he wants too...he can't til he die.

"When he's asked about his ex he gets nervous, stumbles around his words, and gets a little red faced, and even sometimes snippy."

whatever you called that but...that's all his pain you don't understand that. they lived together that's not a easy things to forget.

that's the fact. for your side, why do you have to talk about his ex? you are torturing your self and hurting his feelings as well.
his memories will flash back when only he is alone sometimes other then that he is not gonna think of her unless you talk about her.

if you had a love before you should know by now i don't have to explain in details.

Answer 4

Yes, it takes a long time to get ove a 4 year relationship. If it is your first tru love, it takes even longer. I hope that your friend is not his rebound relationship.

Answer 5

i'll be honest and blunt. it sounds like he isnt over her. however maybe she also hurt him so bad that he has an anxiety attack whenever he mentions her. he might of not resolved and buried some issues with her so anxiety and stress comes bak. for example i used to love to eat , however when i started eating healthy i started getting ocd. cause the way i delt with anxiety changed.

Answer 6

OK! This exactly happened to me! And we all know the answer! He still cares for her......my boyfriend at the time broke up wit his ex of three years to be with me. But three months done the line he broke up with me saying "i want my ex back...how can you stop loving someone for three years." So its a pretty HUGE possibiltiy he still cares for her. IF i was your friend, ...idk! Just tell her guard her heart & watch for the signs!!

Answer 7

acutally u guys cant blame him of his reaction. maybe he himself trying hard to forget about his past, but if you guys keep asking him or frame him, well.. i feel pity on him. sometimes being nervous is not that all what we think. maybe talking bout his past making him uncomfortable.

Answer 8

yeah. he could just still be processing his feelings. sounds like he needs more time..