this party and i guess i tried to kill myself now i just found out about this tonight they did not even tell me i had no clue so my question is should they have told me or wait five days till i find out from my sister who heard it from my mom who heard it from my aunt and so on. Also now everyone in my family knows and i feel a little ashamed so what should i do to not feel this way.
2007-09-19 19:18:37 · 20 answers · asked by tashie_nichole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK this is what "happened" i guess i was trying to stab myself with a knife and one of my cousins and to wrestle me to the ground and take it away i don't think its a rumor because on Monday i talked to my aunt (the mother of the cousin the "saved" me) and she said something like "you really scared you cousin" and that was it i tried to call him to find out why but nothing till tonight. I do believe that i did try i have had depression problems in the past and also problems with alcohol and im not even 21 yet i know my limits but i mostly drink not to feel and if im blacked out i cant feel nothing.
2007-09-19 19:38:08 · update #1
You shouldn't have gotten drunk around your family. What were you thinking? I can understand a few drinks, but enough to black out...? If they were there and letting you drink that much, then they are partly responsible.
2007-09-19 19:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Serenity 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, if you are drinking to the point of oblivion that you obviousely have a problem with alcohol.
Alcohol numbs the part of your brain that causes you to be inhibited...that's why people say "the truth comes out when you are drunk". I would assess yourself if I were you. Are you depressed? Have you thought of suicide without alcohol? If you are drinking that much to begin with...mayb you are using it as a means to cope with what is really going on.
You should talk to a professional. I can't believe your family would allow you to drink so much to begin with. There should have been some sort of intervention or cut off before you blacked out. It's a good thing your family was there. What if you were at a party with people you don't know so well and blacked out? Who knows what would have happened. These are some things you really need to start thinking about before you pick up another drink.
2007-09-20 02:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by zimmiesgrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change the past. You can't control what others do or say. You can and should control yourself. From your question and limited details, your suicide attempt could have been a rumor, too...seems to be something that spread by word of mouth...unless you heard it from someone you consider a reliable eye witness who also wasn't drunk at the party.
From this experience, you hopefully learned some valuable lessons about yourself and life. Personally, I don't drink ..but that's entirely your choice.
The problem with freedom of choice is that you don't get freedom from responsibility. Your feelings of shame are an appropriate reaction given the circumstances.
All you can do is take action, make choices, and try to do things differently so you don't put yourself into the same situation again. Consider the shame your tuition in the school of hard knocks.
The world won't come to an end. If your future behavior stands in sharp contrast to this past incident, that says a lot about you, your decision making, taking control of your life, and growing up.
Just don't make it a habit to get drunk again and you'll do fine.
2007-09-20 02:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by wisdomdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, alcohol becomes our "truth serum". Meaning, we act/say how we truly feel; whatever we've been going through. It seems to me, & this is just my opinion, that you have other problems besides your cousins opinions. You need to really search yourself & figure out why you wanted to do this & take care of that, probably by getting professional help. Also, stay away from excessive drinking which obviously, hasn't been doing much good. As for your family, if you feel like it-explain. Explain that you were drunk & acted in a way in which you normally would not have. They probably didn't tell you because they thought you knew. After all, they were YOUR actions. But tell them, you don't remember because you were too drunk. If not, don't tell them anything. But it wasn't their responsibility to babysit you. So let it go & get some help. good luck.
2007-09-20 02:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by judy bo-booty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the shame you will get over I guess what I am concerned about is the fact that you tried to kill yourself. I think your family probably is too. Hopefully, you can find what it is that is bothering you so and share that with somebody close to you stop bottling that up. You don't drink yourself into blackness and try and commit suicide for nought. Confide in somebody please I know you have somebody that loves you somebody to share with and nothing is as bad as it seems when you are going through it. I really hope the best for you. Before you know it all this you have been through will seem as a distant bad memory and life will be great and you will be wondering what the heck was I thinking. Good luck.
2007-09-20 02:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am reposting this answer because at first you did'nt give any details (but anyway:)
You surely had too much to drink,if you attempted to stab yourself. When you said you "blacked out",( honey!) ,if it weren't for your family,you would have never woke up!. I'm sure everyone was scared to death,when they saw what you were attempting to do. (Now?). What did you have to drink,that made you react like that?. Alcohol does not cause those types of illusions? (only drugs do that!). First of all,I think there is more to this then your saying,but that's your business!. You mentioned you were too young to drink,so my suggestion is to not do it anymore. Apologize to the family,and just don't let it happen again (That's all!)
2007-09-20 02:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tried to kill yourself when you blacked out there's obviously something going on deep inside that you need to address. Don't feel ashamed. Feel grateful that it happened and use it as a gift to help you heal. Get yourself into counseling so you can work on whatever it is that's bothering you. You may want to consider staying away from alcohol until you get things resolved. Best of luck to you.
2007-09-20 02:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DRINK ANYMORE.
You are having a bad reaction to alcohol, its like an allergy.
You know how prescriptions come with warnings, well you had the most severe reaction to alcohol.
Be very thankful that your family was there and they did tell you, even if it was 5 days later.
They were probably in total shock and didn't know what to do.
Next time the family gets together and they are drinking, just say No thank you, I had a very bad reaction to it and so I decided I better not ever drink.
Also tell your doctor..
2007-09-20 02:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by kitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd stop trying to point the finger at someone else if you were the one who got drunk. Try not getting drunk and apologizing to your family to avoid being ashamed in the future.
2007-09-20 02:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should deal with your problems before you ever drink again. Obviously something is bothering you very badly. You must try to get help to deal with it. Otherwise, you will be wasting a perfectly good life. Suicide is the permanent solution to a temporary problem.
2007-09-20 02:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋