My wedding is at 17:00 and the game starts at 21:00. I know the guys coming to the wedding are big rugby fans, and there was suggested that we must put up a bigscreen for them to watch the game, but I feel that I'm only getting married once and if they really respect me and my fiance, they will enjoy the wedding with us and forget about the game. Or must I just stay quiet and accept what happens?
PS: My mother suggested that the food must be served at 21:30. That way, nobody can just leave to go and watch the game. Oh boy! I think it's really rude of people to just leave! All the time and money put in the reception.
2007-09-19 19:16:21 · 12 answers · asked by Sophia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It isn't a national holiday in SA.
2007-09-19 19:41:12 · update #1
Yes it is totally rude of them to leave, it's your WEDDING for god's sake! I would be deeply offended if they left to go watch some stupid game of football! Yes, have the food at a time so they can't leave and don't have a TV to watch the game, it's a WEDDING, not a club! It's your wedding, put your foot down. If they care more about the game, then tell them not to bother coming and if they do care about your wedding, they will stay and do the right thing. Good luck!
2007-09-19 19:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding starts at 17:00, but what time does the reception start? I really think if you are going to enjoy your wedding and have your guests enjoy it as well, you should atleast make sure that there is a tv in a bar area or lounge so they can periodically check up on the game. It would be pretty creative to have a bigscreen near the dancefloor and just have the tv on mute while the music is blasting. That way people can dance the night away as well as keep tabs on the game. If you are really concerned about your guests leaving, the only thing to do is try to meet their needs as best as possible while still having your perfect day. I think my suggestion would enable EVERYONE to have a great time and party all night long!
Congrats ahead of time and no matter what have a wonderful wedding!
2007-09-20 02:28:12 · answer #2 · answered by goddesswithin13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, how about if you have some record the game and then you can have an informal after-party after the reception for everyone to watch it together. That way you still get the feeling of watching it live, but you can also fast-forward through the commercials.
I agree, though, I totally wouldn't want my guests to be focused on a rugby game during my wedding reception. I'm not sure I would wait and serve dinner late though - people expect dinner at whatever normal dinner-time is.
2007-09-20 08:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people choose to come to your wedding, they are making the choice to miss the big game. No one is forcing them to attend. If missing the game is too big a sacrifice, they have the option of declining the invitation.
For you to even consider turning your wedding into a Sports Bar with a big screen TV so people can watch a stupid Rugby game is absolutely ridiculous. Do you really want your "big rugby fans" sitting there, watching a game, drinking beer, being loud and obnoxious for 90 minutes, eating free food, drinking free alcohol and totally ignoring the purpose of the event...which is celebrating your marriage, not a sports game!?!?! If you want to have a Rugby party, throw it at your house, in your living room...don't spend thousands of dollars on a wedding!!
Also, in reference to your Mom's suggestion: having people attend your wedding a 5pm, and then wait FOUR and a Half HOURS until you serve food, just to try to force guests to stay?? Heck, if I was at a wedding close to a mealtime and I had to wait more than 3 hours, I would leave just to get something to eat! That is insane.
You need to have the wedding the way you want it. People will leave if they want to. Nothing you do is going to change that, unless you change the date of the wedding.
~Kat
2007-09-20 08:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a TV setup by the bar outside of the reception area. I can't see serving dinner FOUR and a half hours after people have arrived, they will be very hungry and antsy on top of being upset at the fact that they are missing the game. If you want to enjoy your wedding as well as please your guests, serve dinner earlier and have a small TV by the bar so people who are really into it can at least come out every few minutes to check the score and watch a possesion or two, if they are more interested in the game than your wedding than you don't want them partying with you anyway and they will be out of your site and in a different room.
Hope thid helps.
2007-09-20 02:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by n8 dogg 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't control what people do... My wedding was on a Sunday night and I was afraid people would leave early, which some did leave. But overall I had a great time at my wedding. Don't let a game spoil your day, the waitstaff may also be watching the game. They may have a tv set up in the bar area, and just ignore it. Have a great wedding...
2007-09-20 08:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lyla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you find someone that can record the game or at least suggest that to all the friends that are coming to the wedding. Then they can go home after a nice wedding party and sit down and relax and watch it and it will only be a few hours old. We have done that with parties and get together all the time. It is quite fun actually.
2007-09-20 02:25:26 · answer #7 · answered by 'Sunnyside Up' 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
May i suggest doing both: having the big screen and having your reception.
Serve food promptly at 21:00. And spread the rumor, that you have sectioned off a portion of your reception hall for the game. Make sure, when making your rounds at your reception, thanking your guest for coming... you dont forget your sports room.
I dont think it'd be a big deal to have the screen at the reception. Most guys arent real enthusiastic about being at wedding receptions anyway. And since there is more than one, the females can steal their chaps away for a dance, while one stays back as a lookout.
2007-09-20 09:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It would be very rude for people to leave. When is the date? Is it too late to change it around? The people that care about you the most probably won't leave...if they do, then they are very self-absorbed.
2007-09-20 02:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by Serenity 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, why not try to serve the food earlier. . .people could watch, surely there would be a bar and that would have TVs, huh? You want people to have a good time!
2007-09-20 09:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by ShouldBeWorking 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋