Make a long story short, she broke up but she has been talking to me for the last six months. She always calls me especially when I don't call her. No intimacy, no kissing, hugging, or even hanging out that much. But she keeps calling. This really angers me because I don't want to be a back up. Monday was her birthday. I called her and said happy birthday. I didn't buy her a present, didn't take her out or anything. She mentioned hanging out last week but didn't mention it this week. I just feel like I am on the backburner. She told me a couple weeks ago that she was not ready to be with me and that she would hurt me again if we were together. So I said peace out. I told her friend that I wouldn't buy her anything and that the only reason she calls me is when she needs something (I didn't get invited to her party or dinner). I told him "why should I get a present for someone who doesn't want to be with me?". My question is; Did I do the right thing? She hasn't called me.
2007-09-19 19:15:33 · 21 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That sounds to me like she's definitely keeping you on the back burner for when her other relationships start falling through. After six months I can imagine this would be very annoying. I recommend not calling her or responding to her calls. Block her phone number if you have to. It's obvious she doesn't want you and is just using you as a backup. You deserve better.
2007-09-19 19:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.......you have the upper hand here. She is using you. YOu have to make that STOP asap. Don't answer her phone calls. Block her number. If you to answer tell her that you are real busy and if she asks to hang out becuse she has nothing else to to........JUST say NOPE. You don't have to explain anytyhing to her, it isn't her business.
You are doing the right thing. why give her attention only when she isn't getting any elsewhere.
You deserve a gril how honors you and respects you for who you are. YOu will be amazed how much more that sort of relationship is. Lose her.
You know, the best prediction of the future is the past. So unless she becomes a totally different person, I would say
Goodbye forever. Then find yourself a cool girlfriend.
You are being her whipping boy and YOU are letting her do it. Be a man and don't put up with her Shhhiitt anymore
2007-09-20 02:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you care if you did the right thing because you want to get the relationship back on track. You want her back but only if she loves you again. You aren't sure how she feels about you, why she keeps in touch, so you assume the worst. You could test her feelings by talking about how maybe you two will get back together, and suggest things you could do together and ask her to call and let you know if she ever feels like doing those things with you, like go to church or to a movie, coming to a party at your house, or seeing your old friends together.
2007-09-20 02:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Bond girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you certainly did. She is just keeping you on the side in case nothing else good comes along. Don't play her game. Move on and start dating other people. I would give her the brush off everytime she tried to call me, if I were you. Let her suffer. Maybe she will realize what she threw away!!
2007-09-20 02:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to cut the ties that bind for good. She's playing with your emotions and you're right, she's keeping you as a back up.
Don't be second best for any reason.
Put her on call block or don't answer or return her calls.
Then get out and live a little.
2007-09-20 02:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, a present is simply that-a gift. You are not obligated to give one to anyone. Instead of clinging on to the hope you you two getting back together, move on..and show her thaty ou are. That way, she will see that she can't keep stringing you along.
2007-09-20 02:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Serenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is keeping u there as a crutch.. a "just in case" guy.. I would move on and quit worrying about someone who is too uncertain to be with u.. She sounds like she is young and immature.. I think u did the right thing.. Move on and forget about someone who can't put you as #1 but wants #1 attention.. smh
2007-09-20 02:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by Inuyasha77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And especially since you weren't invited. Sounds like she really is just keeping you on the back-burner.
2007-09-20 02:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did. Don't be a doormat for anyone. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Life's too short to spend it on pathetic people. Good luck!
2007-09-20 02:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm a female and i used to do that with my exboyfriend. i called them but i know i have no more feelings with them. it's just sometimes, talking with our ex [whom still want to be friend after breakup] will be enjoying. why? most of all, you're her ex and you pretty know how she is and bout her habit,right? she feeLs a lot more comfy talking to you and maybe she hopes for your care too, since she havent found someone better than u. but im sure if she finally finds one, she'll forget you... :D
2007-09-20 02:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋