Girls help me understand this girls behaviour please!?

Question

Hey girls, im from canada high school, and i really like this coffee girl, but dont know whether she likes me back.
At the start she used to stare at me quite alot, and then when i caught her shed just look away.Now im a local at her coffee shop and always go and get a coffee from her, at the start she used to hesitate when talking to me, and was really quiet. Then outta the blue one day she was all bubbly, like "hey hows it going",and she was really cheerful, then the next day she was back to being quiet.???....anyway, one thing that was really weird, is she sometimes giggles when i put money in her hand?. What i have noticed, is she is happy to talk to me when im by myself, but when im with friends, shes really quiet?, i make her laugh alot though, but the times when she doesnt say much,makes me wonder whether she does it cause shes nervous, or because she doesnt want to?im really shy though!...

heres the thing, outta the blue last week, i waved out to this girl, and she gave me a really big smile, then when i approached her for coffee, she was back to being really bubbly( her mate wasnt helping her at the counter so she was freely speaking aswell), and like was asking me questions and stuff(which is quite unusual). Shes got a big break in 3 weeks time, and she goes to me first..."have you got any plans for your break?", i said no, and she also said she hasnt got any too.....is she waiting for me to ask her out?, cause the next day she seemed like she was pissed off, and wasnt so bubbly, and didnt make any eye contact at all with me, like shes trying to avoid me?, is she losing hope, or ignoring me now?, its wierd cause the day before she was really happy to see me, and the following days after that she was quite cold towards me, and didnt really try to talk much...why is that girls?...i still catch her looking at me on occasions as well....we both just as bad i guess

Answer 1

It sounds like she is pretty shy herself. On her "bubbly" days, she has worked up courage and is trying her level best to chat you up. On other days, she may be worried that she embarrassed herslef by being too flirty (she laid out a big hint for you to ask her out during break, and you didn't bite. The next day she was quiet because she didn't want to look pushy), that you may not like her, that your friends don't think she's cute. Go ahead and ask her out. I truly believe she is waiting for you to do this. She is just a little insecure and doesn't know if you like HER or are just being friendly. I would put down a sizable wager that she accepts your invitation to a movie, a concert, or even a trip to McDonald's after her shift (NOT for coffee, though, LOL). Good luck.

Answer 2

It sounds like she definately may be interested in you and is going out of her way to talk to you. Somedays girls are just in a mood and don't feel like talking a whole lot.

I would suggest continueing talking to her, ask her about her plans for the weekend and if she says she doesnt have any thats an opening to suggest something. The worst thing she can do is say no.

I'm a member of this free site thats called Dating Training and it gives a lot of great information on how to approach a girl, read a girl, etc. I put the link to it below in case you are interested. Oh.. and pay attention to her body language. If she touches her hair that is a sign she's interested - its something girls do without even realizing it when theya re interested in someone.

Answer 3

hey dinnn, this is ishita from india n i would really like to ans ur querie. Here it seems dat gurl f urs is quite innocent it seems, in manner dat this our gurls attitude dat we never say our feelings first , the same is with her too. The ans lies here honey as u said she is a coffee gurl so might b she is trying to b cheerful n greet full to you as she works there n want to give her best in her duty. Or she must be waiting for u try his first by giving u some hint like bubbly behaviour, ofcourse no gurl tries to be bubbly every time if she dosn't hbav any feeeling for him.So y dont u ask her out n clear ur doubt. I think she is waiting for u to take the first step.so just ask her honestly n u will get ur ans right from there.all d best dinnn. good wishes. ishita.

Answer 4

It sounds like she was into you but when you didn't ask her out she felt embarrassed...which is why she couldn't even make eye contact with you the following day. She doesn't talk to you as much when you are with your friends because she is shy. You need to get back to the shop as soon as possible and ask her out. Try to find a creative way to do it like write it on a cookie

Answer 5

you have GOT to stop analyzing her every move. Isn't it exhausting???? You should just ask her out. If she's interested then you'll make plans and you can just keep on analyzing everything she does. If she says no then at least you can let all this go. I'm sure there is somewhere else you can go for coffee if you're too embarassed to go back. =)

Answer 6

I can't believe that you did not catch the hint and do something about it. Ask the girl out, you fool. She has done everything possible to hint that she is interested. If you don't jump in and do something about it, she will end up with someone else. Time is wasting!!!

Answer 7

Well, obviously we can't read her mind, but chances are she is disappointed that you didn't take her up on her big hint about your upcoming break. If you like her, why not ask her out for that time?

Answer 8

i think she likes u, u know she is waiting for ur invitation out,always is guys make the first step, then girls seem like good girl or sth, u dont ask her out maybe will turn her down.

Answer 9

Well no wonder she's pissed. Just ask her out already, geez. By the way you're fretting over this I say it's better for you to just try and ask her out.

Answer 10

Yeah, she's hinting that she wants you to at least ask her out. Even if she turns you down, she wants to know that you are interested in her.