Since we are older now, I feel the need to discuss this more openly and sooner than I would in my younger days.
I want my needs known and I figure it saves precious time, to talk more. But whats the best time to do a little hanky panky? I Don't want to be total loose slut, But I do want some action in!
2007-09-19 18:24:36 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm over 40 and the one thing i think is that at this time in my life that it's just more of a need thing then an emotional/love thing. do it!!! think of it this way every day that passes that you don't have sex is one day less for you to have sex. also how much longer will we be able to do it with such passion. make memories now. this will be the lustiness that will help us make it through the decrepit years because we may not be able to scr** like jackrabbits some day. i'm a chick and always use condoms.
2007-09-19 18:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Beedo :
You know , I think the Over-Forty crowd wants things to happen more quickly . This is still improper or incorrect thinking !
We already know if you have sex too early in the relationship , things have got a real good chance to become blah-zay in the near future .
Just the same , we' ll feel we had a good time anyway !
And we' re smart enough to know how much God will hate us for making love before marrying .
So , the "rules" never really change . We ( maybe ) feel more pressured now that maybe if we wait too much longer , we won' t find love again . But , in my mind , that' s a poor reason to send yourself to Hell !
So , although you might want to " get some action in " , it' s all a big sin ! Let it be known that I' ve been NO ANGEL in my lifetime , but I now realize more than ever what' s right and what's wrong .
So , wait until at least the 2nd date before you let out all your sexual inhibitions ! ? !
2007-09-20 01:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Helpme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for the "older" part! LOL Okay, rules have not realy changed. Sex should be special not just hanky panky. However we all need to breed every once and a while. Things are not as they were in our prime. USE A CONDOM ALWAYS! You know when the time is right just by how you feel. I have done it as early as the first date and as late as six years (yes I meant to say years). The six year sex was awsome but my last first date sex was probley the best I have EVER had. EVER!
2007-09-20 01:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok a guys opinion here. If you just met, not on the first date. If you have known each other a while and the attraction is there, then you are an adult, so do what you want to do. If it feels right go for it. If it sucks you can get out before it gets to serious. But yes always use protection, because you have both had partners before, and of course you don't want no babies!!
2007-09-20 01:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by mojoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait at least a month, after dating the person a couple of times or more a week during that period of time.
You want to be sure you or they won't get hurt, can be trusted, isn't a stalker, and it's for all the right reasons.
Once two people become intimate, the whole criteria of the relationship changes. You become self-conscious, insecure, attached...or you fall hopelessly in love!
2007-09-20 01:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a serious relationship for quite a while but before that I simply KNEW when it felt right. I wanted at least a few dates with the person to get to know them. I'd also like their history as far as past partners etc. (or a general idea).
I noticed that when I jumped into things with a person too quickly they weren't around too long.. but when I didn't they stuck around for quite a while. I also think that a little suspense and anticipation makes things better.
2007-09-20 01:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very good question! I think you should do what you feel like doing, well, maybe not if it's been a while! lol Seriously, if you have a spark between you and the guy, I would say around the fourth date, IF you can wait that long!! I know what you mean, things like this matter as we mature and realize there aren't too many single fish in the sea anymore! Good luck to you!!
2007-09-20 01:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by lookn_4_laffs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. You seem to care about yourself so get to know him and after a couple of months (or 3) if you feel he is someone that you would want to be with for a longer period of time then go for it. Otherwise you'll feel like you had sex, got to know him, didn't like him, move on to the next guy. And it becomes a vicious cycle. Get to know him first. Try to get some tips on how he'd perform so that you know you're not wasting your time though.
*wise 28 yr old*
2007-09-20 01:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by Nika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION hun. At times it helps to put yourself in his shoes. Do you think that perhaps he may be thinking the same thing only more so. (Guys usualy want it a lot more than a girl) But he may be afraid to say anything for fear of chasing you away. What have you got to lose. The worse that could happens is tha he says no! (but not likely) Still best friends are the best way to be. I prefer to wait until marriage but one never knows. Old addage: Girls run from a horny guy, but guys flock to a horny girl. Not fair but usually true.
2007-09-20 01:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by D. Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm told that it happens twice as fast as the previous time. So, if you dated and waited 6 months last time, this time around would be 3 months. Waited, as in waited until you got married.
2007-09-20 01:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by mrsdebra1966 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋