She tends to go to the moms and dads or of other kids (most instances it is the dad)and wants to sit with them, hug them etc? Why does she prefer to go to men instead of playing with kids her age?I get embarrased..please help. (I am married and my husband loves my daughter a lot). What can I do to change her?
2007-09-19 18:11:49 · 23 answers · asked by Techy_Gal 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
embarassing kids arent they,my daughter used to be just like this ,thankfully by school age she will have grown out of it
2007-09-19 18:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the problem isn't your daughter. maybe she doesn't like the kids and feels safer with adults. Is this at daycare, I presume?
If your husband, her daddy, is spending time with her doing things she WANTS to do with her, it's not really an issue, of wanting male attention. People think taking their child with them to do what THEY want is quality time. Quality time is doing something the child likes with them. Play CandyLand, watch a kids movie, go to the park, etc...
Make sure she isn't having an issue with the other kids first of all. My daughter is autistic and prefers adults. Nothing wrong with that. She doesn't have good social skills and adults are more friendly to her. Kids are cruel. It could be a 2year old thing... My daughter was huggy at a younger age. she grew out of it. good luck
2007-09-24 02:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by JerZey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3 year old does this too, even though she also has a very loving Daddy. I think that at least in my daughter's case she finds dudes fascinating because she hardly ever sees them. All of my friends are female (other than our couple friends, but they only come over as couples), her teachers at school and church are female, her swim teacher and gymnastic teachers are female... her Daddy works from 8-6 everyday... other kids Daddies are also rare and interesting. I don't stress about it too much. I would, however, not get complacent- there are lots of pervs in the world.
2007-09-19 18:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by Momof2grrls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you can't change her. Only help her grow. When my daughter was 2 she did the same thing along with calling other women "mommy". (She also had a thing for rubbing ladies stockings but that's another issue!) Is her daddy at work during the day? Maybe she just misses him. The fact that she feels comfy with "daddies" could be a testament to how comfy she feels with her daddy. At two she wouldn't really play with other kids necessarily anyways.What's familiar to her would be mommy and daddy.
2007-09-24 05:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by Excelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe your husband has been a great father and she thinks all adult men are like 'daddy'. My 2 year old wont go near any adults unless she knows them very well. I would just be glad that she isnt as shy as my little girl is. But to air on the side of caution...make sure you always keep an eye on her...and you might want to start talking to her about not approaching strangers.
2007-09-19 18:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki in PA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a strange question, just a concerned one.
My youngest loved my neighbor more than she did any of us. She called my neighbor mom and refused to call me mom. I was "Silly Girl Mom" to her. (not using my real name here)
Was strange but she did get over it - she also was a cuddly one - with everyone - she just seemed that she needed more than most. If she'd been someone else child I'd of sworn that they never hugged her at all - but she was hugged and loved a lot, even by her neighborhood "mom".
I must tell you that by the time she was in junior high she didn't want any one to hug her and still today she doesn't enjoy hugs as much as I do.
2007-09-19 19:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by Silly Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making it a problem; she's only 2 years-old and obviously a happy little girl. I see no need at this point to analyze it. When she's 5 years-old and prefers men to playing with kids her age THEN you have a problem.
For now I would relax...
2007-09-19 18:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by freefalling 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just sounds like a social little butterfly - don't worry about it.
At that age my daughter was so shy, she wouldn't leave my side. I would have been pleased if she would sit with someone else.
If you are worried, arrange some playdates when the dads are at work and she will have to just play with the other toddlers.
good luck
2007-09-19 18:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a 2 year old girl they do tend to be a, "daddy's girl". That she prefers men is just a personal preference. Usually 2 year old boys prefer to be with mommy. It's just part of their growing and establishing there own gender orientation.
2007-09-19 18:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by NavyVet64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh...at least she's confident and open.....my toddler freaks out if a strange man talks to her....which is good and bad. Just keep an eye on her...when she goes over to the man or whatever, then go with her and say gently...it's ok to say hello...but we only hug Mummy or Daddy or Grandma etc.....just say lightly to the people concerned.."I guess she really likes the look of you!" Most people are flattered by a toddler warming to them.
2007-09-19 20:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boys following "daddy" figures around and want to copy them and talk to them a lot. Of course they do this with woman too on certain days. It is them trying to socialize plus if someone reminds them of someone they love they will go to them. I had to have the "stranger" talk to my kids starting at age 2 because of this.
2007-09-19 18:20:11 · answer #11 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋