Sadness......?

Question

i am not sure if this is in the right category, but whatever.

i'm a male, 15 years old, and in 9th grade. Well, two years back i was a popular kid with a lot of friends by my side.

now, all those people dont hang with me anymore and just leave me alone. i have no friends now and i am feeling lonely. then, i also have this big crush on a girl, but she rarely talks to me. and dont think she ignores me, cuz shes really nice. i see her every day with all her friends, and it makes me feel so bad.

also, i have said that nobody talks to me. they actually do, but behind my back. They spread rumours about me. i only hear about them from my only 2-3 friends.

i feel like this lonely kid with no life, a crush on a girl who barely knows me, and everyone else thinks i am this mean and nasty guy(from the rumours)

what do i do?
i am feeling terrible. it is only been about 3 weeks in school and i think that it sucks

thanks

Answer 1

I think you need to hang in there and try to look at whatever positive aspects of your life there are. Do you have any hobbies? You said you have a friend or two.. hang with them. Emotions run very .. intense at the age you're at now. Everything is the end of the world. I remember it well, and I sympathize. I was a sad kid myself at that age. Best thing to do is be grateful for what you do have (the ability to walk, see, hear, have a roof, food, clothes, all the basics) but if nothing else just grit your teeth and bare it til school is over.

Answer 2

Unfortunatly thats all part of high school. You said you hear the roomers from 2-3 friends? Well that means you do have friends...embrace that. Fewer amount of friends can actually be a blessing in disgise. You can get to know them better and have a bigger and better bond then with smaller ones with 50 people. Trust me its ok to have a fews great friends then a lot of ok friends. Because tehy are teh ones youll have for life.

I think everyone has a crush at one point or another with a someone that doesn't know they exsist. It does suck however you say shes really nice and you have talked to her. Well ask her out. That will get you 2 closer and possibly closer to her friends.

Things will get better, high school is hard but it will get better.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Since you don't say why those friends don't hang out with you anymore, I can only guess that you have at least one person who is jealous of you and is spreading lies about you. If you haven't done something to offend these friends, your're probably better off without their friendship. On the other hand, if you have done or said something that you should not have, then you should apologize to them. As for the crush, give it time. She may or may not be interested in you, only time will tell. In the meantime, while you're waiting for her, someone else may come along who will be the lucky one for having met you!

Answer 4

I was in a similar situation as you when I was in 9th grade. No close friends, major crush on a schoolmate...What I can tell you is that life will get better. Kids your age seem to make major deals out of things like this. Don't sweat it; friends will come, and romance will definitely come...One thing you ccan do for the time being, try to be a friendly as possible to as many people as possible. ACTING like you have a positive attitude will draw people towards you.

Answer 5

Try to make new friends or create a stronger bond with the friends you have now. All you need is just one bestest friend and it'll be much better. About your crush, I think you should try to talk to her more and see where that goes. You have nothing to lose and should take the risk because what is life if you don't take risks? I hope everything goes better and you get happier. Good luck.

Kick it at Wendy's with your closest friends.

Answer 6

Did you give all of those people any reason to think you were lame ? It doesnt add up to me. Well if you like the girl you should just tell her. Or flirt a little. If that doesnt work out then you know she doesnt like you. Also you have to keep your head up. Dont let those people get to you dude. They will only make things worse. You are in highschool .. you should be enjoying it not worring about what other people think.

Answer 7

Try to clean yourself up. Make sure that you wear nice clean clothes and try to get clothes that are more in style. If that is not the problem, try cutting your hair short and spiking it. Other than fixing your outer image, try to open up to some nice guys and hang out with them. Nice guys tend to be accepting even if there are rumors about you. This sounds stupid, and I probably didn't help, did I?

Answer 8

im really sorry to hear that. but, as i've be told, a lot of people have gone through that and come right out. one of my best friends used to not really have any friends, and now shes very popular. my advice is to focus on your friends right now and stay positive. if people who have heard the rumors have seen you happy and nice, they might change their minds about you and try to become your friend. good luck!

Answer 9

Thats why you always hear that being a teen sucks.

But things will change, and this will be just a memory.

In the mean time, just try to be friendly with good people, and ignore the bad apples.

Answer 10

Man, that sucks. I dont know man. You just gotta stay in school and do good. This all will be over. If someone is like dissing you, you gotta get in a fight to show everyone that you are not a wussy.