OK-here's the situation. The girl I work with was originally offered my position (a full-time position with higher pay) but she declined it because she only wanted to be a part-time employee. Then her husband died and she asked for more hours to keep her mind off everything, and now that she is working more hours and technically a full-time employee she is thinking to herself, hey, i should have just taken that position since i'm working anyway full-time. so now she's trying to get me fired by making me always look bad, making it look like i don't know what i'm doing and talking to my boss and coworkers about how I do everything wrong. she wants my job and it's so obvious. and on top of it all, she is so fake, you know always smiling and being all kind to me. ahhhh! what do i do?
2007-09-19 16:04:29 · 5 answers · asked by Kally 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
Alright, she not going to back off...being her friend won't help either. Just continue to do your job and began documenting harassing things she does that make you feel uncomfortable and go to HR on her immediately. What this woman is doing to you is wrong and it's unfair and if she likes your boss he'll probably take her side. Look just call HR and tell how much she is harassing you and stressing you out, that you can't focus on your job. Tell them how uncomfortable she making you. Do this in an email and cc your manager on it. When HR - gets back to you, she and her manager will be off you behind really quick!! I suggest however during the time of peace you will get after contacting HR - start immediately looking for a new job. This one will probably be an unpleasant experience and you won't be happy there. So If you need to go on stress leave, then do so just whatever you do sign up with several employment agencies and find a new job fast!!!
2007-09-19 16:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by girl next door 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she actually sabotaging your work, or just badmouthing you? If it's obvious to you what she's doing, it's probably just as obvious to your boss and coworkers. With apologies to the first answerer, HR is not where you want to go with this right now. Your boss will NOT appreciate you making an end-run around him, especially since it makes it look like he either can't supervise his employees well or doesn't have a clue what's going on in his department. Either way, bad idea.
Your best defense is a good offense, yeah, I know it's an old saying, but it's pretty true here. You just need to continue to do your job in a stand-out way -- and make sure your boss knows about it. Do schedule a meeting with him, but instead of complaining about the problem child, discuss the department. Maybe you have an idea about how to do something better; if so, do your homework on it and then present it to him. (Just as an example)
If she is sabotaging your work, though, that's another story. But you still take it to your manager (whoever directly supervises you both) first, with any documented proof you can gather. Give him a chance to do something about it.
My guess is that if you continue to be a valuable employee, and ignore little miss backstabber as much as possible, she'll back off. Your one other option is to confront her directly but that's pretty risky, and also disrupts the workplace (something else your boss isn't going to take very kindly).
2007-09-19 23:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lee S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had a very similar thing happen to me. First of all, protect yourself! The woman trying to get me fired would try to make me look bad also. Do everything perfect. Do not shortcut anything-make sure your work is always professional. Then in that respect she can't point anything out to anyone that you didn't do correctly. Secondly, be nice to her-as bad as this seems. If management likes her and you are mean to her then bye-bye job. The one thing that all employers want is productivity!!! If you are doing a good jub and she is spending all her time bothering you then she is not being productive. Document what she has been doing and go directly to your boss/supervisor. Explain everything that is happening and how you feel about it. Explain that you are trying to do your job and what she is doing is keeping you from doing it. Employers know that good employees are hard to come by-prove yourself as that good employee and they will right the situation.
2007-09-20 08:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by *Almost ready* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either have a meeting with your boss and get the situation handled or
Do nothing and chance your job .
Real life , sometimes you have to stand up for yourself .
Write out an articulate letter to your boss ahead of time so you don't have to worry about just getting all flustered .
When it is just right , meet and have the boss read it .
Then ask what they recommend to resolve the issue .
Too many girls just simmer in the drama .
You have to grow up and deal like a professional adult .
Stand up for yourself .
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2007-09-19 23:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two Books you need to read. First is The Prince by Machiavelli, and the Second is The Art of War by Sun Tsu
2007-09-19 23:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by cashcobra_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋