Depression, What is wrong with me?

Question

Hi,
I'm a 16 year old female who's parents recently split up. Grade 9 i was a perfect student, then i began to party and get into drugs when my parents split up. I continue to do drugs and party. However, I feel like I can have the best day in my life and come home and be extremely angry all of the sudden. I have So much hate towards my family it is unreal. I dont really stay at my moms, she has a boyfriend in the states which she left my dad for so she isn't home often, and when we do speak she takes complete advantage of me. I dont know what is wrong with me? Why can't i get over my parents not being together? Many people go through it and get over it, and I just can't seem to, it is always on my mind and makes me cry at least 3-5 times a week. Whats the problem?

Answer 1

Is there an adult you can talk with about this? What about some other support system besides your parents? Are their any support groups that might work? I really think you need someone you can really talk to about this. When you're in your teens, the one thing you always feel you can count on is your family (the way it is before divorce). When that falls apart, it shakes the foundation of everything you believe in and rely upon. That is a really tough age to work through this and believe it or not, without help, it can also affect your relationship with men adversely when you are older. If counseling is a possibility, it won't hurt a bit.

Answer 2

Your reaction sounds pretty reasonable to me, no matter what your mom thinks. Why wouldn't you be upset that your mom prefers a new boyfriend to you and your dad? It is really sad and disgusting. It will take a while for you to adjust to this. Isn't your dad at least being supportive, since he's not the one that took off with somebody else?
If your mom had died, it would take time to get through your grief. This may take even longer, since it is something she chose to do. But you can get through it. Don't let it ruin your entire life. You are old enough to make a choice to have a meaningful life, not to become a victim of others' selfishness.
Take care of yourself. Share your feelings with those you can confide in. Don't become evil and don't give in to despair; everybody has pain in their life, sooner or later. Use what you experience to help you become a stronger, better person.
The best revenge is to live well.

Answer 3

For one thing drugs are making it a lot worse. You need to get help. Spliting parents take time to heal. Just relax!!! Of course it's hard coming from a split family. Your not alone. If you keep on partying and doing drugs all you will do is getting worse. Be smart and seek help.

Answer 4

Ree~lax... Seperated parents at such a critical time of your life is tough, but just remember to stay strong! Stop doing drugs, they'll only harm you. Do well in school, if you cant trust your parents anymore there are friends. Of course your mom will say stuff like your dad is evil, hes a jerk... all kinds of things to have you on her side... but you have to make a decision soon, your mom or your dad...

You are strong, have courage =]

Answer 5

Its ok to cry. If it didnt work out with your family then dont take it out on yourself. try to spend more time with your mom. talk to her and understand her better. (^_^) She shouldn't take advantage of you, Its not right. I mean its ok to ask you to do something hear or there but not everytime she sees u. Maybe you could try to spend time with your mom instead of partying and doing drugs. Im not telling you to quit. Even though its not good for u. but its hard to quit, just take it Slow. (^_^) i hope i helped!! (^_^)