My brother is 8yrs older than me. and he is a medical docter. I'm 20 yrs old. we always shared a great bond. he was always kind to me and took me as his little doll. But after he got married he doesn't speak to me, he doesn't care about me, frankly I feel as though I lost my brother. I'm so heartbroken over this matter. please help me get through this. He got married only 4 months ago and he and his wife doesn't have any problems. But they live in different towns coz of there work locations. they only meet on weekends. I thought it might be his matter, but he is so arrogant towards me. And its too much for me to bear.
2007-09-19 15:12:49 · 8 answers · asked by ash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it may be because it views you as immature with his new life and more responsibility also his wife may know fill in the same role emotionally you once held
most people would say talk to him and tell him how you fill, however because of the emotion involve may cause to not get all your thoughts out so it may be best to carefully write him an e-mail or letter to tell how you feel and what you've been going through and treat it as you would an important essay for school to make sure you get your point across
Good luck!!!!!
2007-09-19 15:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by -The Winner- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother doesn't live with his wife, after only 4 months of marriage? That is weird and odd. Newly married couples usually want to be together as much as possible.
I don't know what is going on, but I think you need to be patient. Keep in touch with him, tell him you miss him, but don't whine. He may be having stresses that he doesn't want to talk about. You are 8 years younger, so don't push this. Also, be extra friendly to his wife, for as long as this marriage lasts. If there is any tension between you and his wife, it will also come between you and your brother.
I hope this helps.
2007-09-19 23:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to express your concerns with your brother. If you can find a funny doctor friend card or maybe make one yourself. In the letter take him back memory lane. Write all the fun things you and him done as kids, and then let him know how important he is to you.
You should also draw a relationship with his wife. I think he may appreciate the closeness in your family. Invite them out for a nice dinner, and present them with a nice cheap gift...God bless.
2007-09-19 22:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kind of in a similar situation. I RARELY see my brother, he is 6 years older than me and married for a year. I just call him every once in awhile because I know he is a busy man, and I love my sister-in-law. I just think of it this way: I know he loves me in is heart even though he doesn't have time for me. Maybe just call him sometime.
2007-09-19 22:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about what has happened between the both of you. Have you been demanding of his time? Have you said mean things about his wife? Have you tried to come between them? Think about it. You sound very needy and I would guess that he is tired of trying to make you happy.
2007-09-19 22:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get on with your education first of all.
Give him and his wife some time to get their footing as married people.
Also being a married doctor he's buisy and can't come out to Play.
Don't you have a life?. Cause that's what he and his wife have.
2007-09-19 22:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by Debster2525 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he wants to only pay attention to his wife more so he could feel like a good husband.
but he should still treat you better.
2007-09-19 22:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Slim24/7 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe his wife just doesn't like you, and she is rubbing off on him...
i say this because the same thing has happened to my brother-in-law...
try talking to him, openly and blunly.. hope you can get thru to him!! good luck :)
2007-09-19 22:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by idgaf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋