For the past few years I have really wanted to have a daughter . I had my first child and 7 years later tried again in hopes of a girl but I had another boy, not to say I don't love him any less I wouldn't trade him for anything .When I found out he was a boy I took it very hard. I wanted to try again for a girl. My husband at first didn't want to then he said in 4 years we can try for a girl by then my kids will be 13 and 6 and I'll be 30. I really don't want to wait that long but he won't budge. I am not willing to ruin my marriage over this but it's starting to head that way, so I think the best thing for me to do is give up and be happy with what I have I know I sound ungratefull and some people can't have even one child and I am truely sorry about that. I also think it would make my husband alot happier. problem is I'm depressed about not having a daughter and can't stand to see pregnant women baby's little girls. I can't even be happy 4 friends that had girls or the one having 1.
2007-09-19 15:12:28 · 3 answers · asked by justwaswonderin 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think it would be worth your while to go talk to someone. You are really having a hard time and even if you don't want it to affect your life, I think it might. You are grieving. Even though someone didn't die here, you aren't able to get something that is so important to you. I don't think you will just get over it just as people who lose someone close to them don't get over it right right away. It takes quite a while. Be patient with yourself. You see what is going on, but it still hurts.
2007-09-19 15:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have two lovely kids . if you feel that your Family is incomplete without a Daughter ,you can adopt one from a reputable organisation .you should talk to your husband ,convince him , there are many little baby girls who need love ,and a good family .In the mean time visit orphanages and spend some time with the children there . you will surely feel happy and all the depression and negative thoughts will vanish . what say you ? Best Luck
2007-09-19 23:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by sunita g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am concerned if you try again to have a daughter,
you may end up having another son instead. This will make you feel disappointed.
The only sure way you will have a daughter is to adopt one.
Talk to your husband about considering adoption.
2007-09-20 12:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋