How should this be addressed?

Question

I run a daycare out of my home. I care for 3 children as well as my son. Two of the children are sisters. They come from a home with no structure or discipline. When they come to my house there is both and they rebel against it all of the time!! Now, I know that it is also their ages (3 and 1.5yr). I've been there with my children (5.5 and 20 months).
Long story short, they are aggressive and take it out on my 20 month old and the other child I care for (10 months old). Yesterday the 3yr old pulled a blanket out from under the feet of my son, he fell and bumped hi head on a toy resulting in a huge bruise. Today the 1.5yr old yanked the bib off of the 10 months olds neck and the velcro scratched the back of his neck pretty bad...his dad was not too happy and needless to say neither was I. Their parents dont ever appologize of discipline the children so the behavior is getting worse. Several talks have taken place with the parents and nothing has changed. Do I terminate care?

Answer 1

I would for a couple of reasons.
#1 they are a danger to the other children
#2 if you've already spoken to the parents and they don't try help remedy the situation its only going to continue
#3 you don't need that kind of stress in your life

Terminating care is never fun or easy. When I've been in a similar situation, its taken some soul searching on my part to figure out how I would handle the situation. I wish you the best.

Answer 2

I would terminate the care of them if I were you. You have a responsibility to your children as well as to the other child you watch. These two sound like they are a handful and are in serious need of some discipline. Put the word out that you have two openings. Maybe the parents of the 10 month old will end up helping you fill the spot with one of their friends or something.

Answer 3

Yes terminate care! For everyone's safety. These kids couldcause a potential lawsuit, especially to the other child. I would agree with others that you should give 2 week notice. Maybe that will be a wake up call or probation period for the parents to teach their children proper behavior. I would also start documenting everything the kids do in writing that cause a problem. Show it to the parents and don't worry about hurting someone's feelings. It is business, right? Good luck to you.

Answer 4

if you're in need of the income i would quickly line up some other people and terminate their care as soon as possible. let them know in advance (2-3 weeks) , even though they don't sound like the greatest people in the world, imagine what you would feel like if you had your kids in daycare and they were kicked out before you could find a replacement?

Let them know you're having problems with the children and that they would be better suited at a different daycare facility.

There's no sense in letting two children, one of which should at least know better by now, jeopardize the safety of other children and your children and possibly having you loose future clients.

Answer 5

To begin with tell the parents that you are thinking of terminating their care. If that doesn't get them to do something about it then nothing will. Terminate care for the sake of your child and the other children. You will find others I'm sure.

Answer 6

Yes, you have to worry about the safety of all the kids in your care. You should be able to find other disciplined children to care for. Maybe it'll give the parents the wake up call they need.

Answer 7

I probably would because it is not fair to your kids or anyone elses if they are too aggressive and you do not want your day care to get the reputation of a mean child.
My mother ran a day care for years and it is hard to do these things but you also have to do what is right for the majority especially when the parents will do nothing to help the situation.

Answer 8

I would terminate the care of these children. This will hopefully force the parents to look for a "liscened daycare" in which will drive up their costs and provide EVEN MORE structure for the children and whom will also terminate care eventually and will hopefully give the parents a wake up call to tend to their children and discipline them. Yep, I'd say terminate the care of these children. SOMEPEOPLE! GEEZ!

Answer 9

I would talk to the parents, and explain to them that they are too aggressive, and either the parents need to allow you to discipline them or the parents need to work on it when they get home. I would tell them that other parents are upsate with the behavior and that perhaps they need a different setting. Lay it on the line, but be kind about it. Good luck - s

Answer 10

Terminate care.
When the mom shows up to drop off the kids, be frank with her. Tell her exactly why those kids aren't in your home. They are Toxic and from a toxic family. If the parents would bust some butts and get their kids in line, it would be one thing, but those kids are on a fast track to loserville.