How many people would go along with this?

Question

You're engaged and you purchase a house with your fiance which they put 99% of the money into and then after living in the house for 3 months your fiance forces you and your son to move out and rent because they didn't like your attitude and didn't trutst you and you were arguing all the time, but they still wanted to see you and be your boyfriend. Would you want to still be their partner after being pressured to move out? . . on the premise that maybe one day you may be allowed to move back in if your good. Even if your fiance justified it by saying that they had to implement a separation on account of the reationship. Is being forced out of your own home a big deal??

Answer 1

Regarless of how much money you put into the house when you are in a commited relationship you do not force your partner out unless the circumstances are extreme. (Such as abusiveness or after repeatedly trying to work things out.)

Sounds like he is very controlling. What is this crap about you may be able to move back if you are good? Doesn't it take 2 to have an arguement? I think this behavior is expecially dispicable since you have a child. What kind of example does this set for you son? That he can treat women like this? Do not allow yourself to be treated like this, dump him and move on! This may be a blessing in disguise because if he is acting like this now and you're not even married yet what is he going to be like when you are?

I think being forced out of a place that you considered to be your home where you loved with someone you love a VERY big deal. If he doesn't see it as such then he is an ***!

I'm sorry you have been put in this situation. I hope you are independent and can support yourself and your son. I hope you find someone who treats you as an equal and who will love you unconditionally!!

Answer 2

If he put 99% of the money in and my name is not on the lease it isn't my house. We are planning to be married but we aren't yet. If you had contributed a sizeable amount towards the home then that would be a diff. story but you didn't so you have no rights to it.

Why are we aguring and why doesn't he trust me? What parts of my attiude does he have a problem with? Am I bieng a controlling *****, lets face it they are out there. Am I like my friend who's fiancee dumped her expecting him to work two jobs while I sit at home? Without knowing that I won't jump to any conclusions that he is being a butthole. Sometimes a little seperation is the best and I don't think he's using it as a reward system, just saying that until the relationship is in better condition he's calling off the wedding. In that case I wouldn't want to live with the person either and....well....it's his house.

"Forced out".....there are really diff. ways of bieng forced out. Did he kick you out in the middle of the night? Is he only giving you a week to find a new place? Have there been attempts to work things out that were unsuccesful...it think there have since he's still trying which means its very unlikely he just woke up one day and said get out.

It sounds like you two have some definate issues and the guy wants to take a breather and work on them before getting married (which in my opinion is smart since breaking up now is much cheaper than divorce).

Answer 3

If you're names on the paperwork, no it's certainly not right, and yes it is a big deal, even if you didn't put as much money into as he did, he asked you to be there, and you are/were engaged.

he should be adult about it and work out your problems face to face. Seperating doesn't make the problems go away on it's on, it just moves them out of the house and they will be brought right back in if you move back in with him.

So everytime something doesn't go his way and you hit a bumb in the road are you going to be forced to move out? He also sounds way to controlling and like he's trying to act like your parent by giving you a rewards system! "If you do your homework, you can have a cookie" "if you behave you can have your house back!" *shakes head* I don't think I'd want to be in a relationship with someone that has that much of a control issue. What would happen if you fight and your married?

Answer 4

No it isn't right.If your name is on those papers anywhere you need to get a lawyer and fast.He may of pulled a fast one and you aren't on the deed but just the same you need to find out.No he isn't your finance if he could do such a thing,and being put out of your house is a BIG DEAL,no matter what the reason.I am serious about finding out about the papers on the house.And no I wouldn't take him back ,why didn't he move out?Did you put up money also or was it all his,in a case like this it does matter,you need to find out.

Answer 5

He had no right to throw you out of the house you spent your money on. And then to call it a seperation or what ever that's horrible. Hopefully you had your name on the deeds to the house and stuff because you have a great case to take him to court. No one should do that to you just because he can't deal with something he obviously doesnt want to talk about. either that or he's just being stupid and petty.

Answer 6

I'd want to be bought out before I moved a stick of furniture...and I wouldn't co-buy with anyone if my name wasn't on the deed.

If "get out" is his solution, he's got control issues.

Answer 7

I think ANYONE who goes along with this bull is a damn fool. Sell the house, split the balance left over and go separate ways.

Answer 8

Yeah, I'd be pretty pissed if the man I loved forced me and my child out because he didn't want to work on the relationship.

Answer 9

I would use some words that can be said on here and then I would go and talk to a Lawyer.

Answer 10

You're an adult and he should treat you as one, with respect.
Him telling you and your son that you can move in if you're good??? OMG