Do you forgive your sister if she fooled around with your fiance?

Question

Odviously it ended the relationship with him, and the relationship with her, but now she wants to be friends. It's 6 years later.

Answer 1

I could only feel what you could be going thru I'm sorry that it happend to you..

I know what you've been I've been in a smiliar story myself.. I know what I'm about to say is not going to be easy to take it because it's not ok.. what she's doing.. but really what it comes down to is you! all that matters is you and your health by you knowing what they are doing you are stressing yourself out and thats the last thing you need

so who cares what they are doing that's six years that's passed by honey you need to forget what happend.. and forgive with in yourself.. and I know it's not an easy task my own family used me abused me and rape clean... i may have not been married but my x that time and my sister were foolin around when i was still dating him..

but you have to show that your not weak cause there laugh at you baby girl and you shouldn't have to take that...

that anit family move on seriously... it's only good for you

Answer 2

I personally won't forgive her. No friend in their right mind would mess around with another friends boyfriend, so I can only imagine it being your sister and fiance. By her doing that she not only ruined what could have been but she also shows that she doesn't actually care as much about you as she lets off. If she was truly "sorry" she wouldn't have done it in the first place. I would never talk to her again.

Answer 3

Forgiveness does not mean becoming friends again but it does mean that you have decided to let go of a terrible pain that hurts you more than it hurts your sister - so go ahead and forgive her but don't be too quick to trust her. Trust must be "earned" especially after what she has done in the past. Go slowly and don't expect things to ever be the same as they were before this unfortunate betrayal but you need to release your sister so that you can regain your inner peace and freedom. You'll be glad you did.

Answer 4

Holy scheisse. That's a dilemma. My personal belief is that family is everything. I'd certainly be pissed as you obviously are. 6 years seems like a good amount of time to allow for healing. I'd say ponder this for some time. Ask yourself if you are truly ready to have your sister back in your life. Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

Its up to you if it doesn't affect your life and your ok with it then fine. If your entire family is affected, like your mom being put in the middle then I would probably think about it. Honestly was the both of them not just your sister. Your sisters your family and you get rid of the guy. If you can I think you'd feel better.

Answer 6

Wow...that's a bit harsh. I suppose if you want to gain some major karma points, you forgive her or, at least, put it behind you. Trust becomes an entirely new issue...good luck

Answer 7

Well yes i would because she is my sister but then again it would be very hard to forgive her because thats mest up you dont do that to your sis come on but talk to her and work things out and forget about him!

Answer 8

6 years, there will be tension, but allow this bad decision to ruin your relationship as sisters would be foolish, I would forgive her, Barry the hatchet,

Answer 9

I did. But it took her being on her death bed, 40 years later..
I feel saddened by all those wasted years. Forgive if you can.

Answer 10

Touchy subject because its about TRUST and being family gives you no reason to think you can do what you want and not have to face the consequences of your actions.