Boyfriend problem, please give me some help. Much appreciated!?

Question

Okay, this may seem kind of weird to some of you.
But hopefully there are others that can relate with me.
I have a problem with my boyfriend that we argue about quite a lot. He is an average white guy who loves me very much,
And I am an average white girl that loves him more than anything. Seems great right? Not likely. Now I dont know if its just me, But my boyfriend has had a past of dating mainly african american girls. I have been told by his mother, brother, and friends that I am the only white girl that he has ever been in a relationship with. Although my boyfriend has told me that it wasn't true. But regardless, I feel sort of self-concious because of it because I feel like, i don't have something that he is mainly interested in. Don't get me wrong I can see that he loves me for me and thats great. But in a way, it just makes me feel somewhat self-concious. I've talked to his mother about it,
and she told me that its not wrong for me to think that way.
Is it just me or him?

Keep in mind, I am still very much in love with him. And I am willing to put up with his interest. Even though it makes me feel self-concious. But I just want to know how to deal with it mentally. Because its something that really does bother me. Don't get me wrong, I am in no way, shape, or form racist. I am cool with everyone. But its just hard in a way because I feel like I have to make myself stand out more for him to notice me. And though he does, it still feels weird deep inside. The other day we agreed to burn our items from our past relationships (pictures, notes, etc.) and some of his included a lot of african american porn/white mixed porn. It made me feel sick knowing that he watched them, and in a way I felt glad that he was willing to burn them for me.
I really feel wrong for thinking that it is wrong but I honestly don't know who's problem it is. This is so hard for me to deal with and I try and tell him but he just keeps telling me that it was his past and he loves me.

We have been together for 8 months now.

Answer 1

Maybe you need to let him know, he is very lucky to have recieved the gift of true love, he shouldn't complain about the color of the package!

Answer 2

Ok first of all I wanna know how long you two have been together??
And you shouldn't get all worked up.. Because if you spend all your time worrying about what he thinks or if you right for him.. You have no time to enjoy the relationship and let alone it will have effects on you and your boyfriend...
So my point is that you shouldn't worry so much about it.. He's obviously with you for a reason right?? And if you worry too much you won't see the great relationship that you guys are having... So I say if you want just take it how it is.. Live the relationship to the fullest...

Answer 3

Its both of you! And its not because he dated black women in the past. You guys argue all the time because you two aren't compatible. Break up and move on!

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Answer 4

Hey there, I think your boyfriend is not bothered at all if your the only white girl he had. then why should you?. Love is something you feel from someone beyond skin deep. He feels something for you, he loves you and you love him thats what matters. Be confident, you are special thats why he has his eyes on you. dont worry too much. Good luck

Answer 5

i think its you. but seriously, think about it, your the first white girl hes dated & all his *ex's* where black, maybe that didnt have something that you do and thats why there his ex's & your his girlfriend :)

dont be self concious, even though its impossible to do :) just think of it like this: you got him, they dont. if he wants someone else b/c they have something you dont, they can have him b/c youll find someone else better for you out there that wants you for you.

if you can plainly see that he loves you for you, dont worry about it because clearly its not that you dont have what they had its they dont have what you have :)

Answer 6

If you love eachother than thats all that matters. Some people have past relationships that they would rather forget about.

Answer 7

with the fighting, dont worry about it, some couples fight a lot. if overall youre happy with what you have, then its perfectly fine. all that matters is your happiness. with being white, i wouldnt worry about it, if youre tan, thats probably why he likes you, or he could be into 'ghetto booty.' if he loves you, i dont see why it matters what color you are, hes clearly shown that it doesnt matter to him.

Answer 8

do you have a problem with african american girls? well anyways, i dont get what the whole story even ment

Answer 9

What don't ya have! It's all there ,just a different shade.
It's whats in the heart that matters.

Answer 10

i had the same problem. and it's no one but yourself. in the end it ended up just me over exaggerating the situation. if you love each other, then there's no problem. race has nothing to do with it.