to go live with her daddy? she lives with me and has security, stability here. if she goes with him then im left to worry and wonder...is she ok, is anybody gonna bother her? Its making me crazy. she is only 10. please I need some advice. No i dont want her to go at all.
2007-09-19 13:07:27 · 8 answers · asked by chevy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
excuse me Lilly but she does know her father. I never kept her from him. she goes every other weekend. He hasn't always been the most responsible father. So yes I have concerns.
2007-09-19 13:25:20 · update #1
If you have custody, she has to stay with you. Once she is twelve she can speak her own mind in a court hearing, but I don't know how much impact that would have. Have the guts to be tough. Put your foot down and tell her she is living with you, PERIOD! Too many parents are afraid to be parents these days. Afraid if they get a little strict they might hurt the child's feelings. That is why we have so many spoiled brats these days....
2007-09-19 13:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read some of the answers from the others and alot of them said to let her go....Don't do it mom! I went thru divorce and my three kids went to their father's every other weekend. Well, while I struggled to pay rent and keep food on the table, the father was sharing a bachelor pad with money to boot. He didn't pay child support at the time either, so the weekend dad was fun guy....yes, much like the word fungi! They went to pizza,. got expensive toys, name brand clothes (to wear there), trips and too much freedom. He had a good job, but wasn't the most stable person either. Plus, he drank too much. He wanted the children too. They all said they wanted to go too. They were 7,8, and 10. Well, over my dead body would they live full time with him. And the newness wore off with him when he had to pay child support, got a girlfriend, and wanted to party. He would "forget" to pick them up, misplaced the calendar that had their birthdays, and eventually just forgot he even had kids. That's my story. If it sounds anywhere familiar, you know where your little girl belongs...with mommy.
2007-09-19 22:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by zen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She maybe missing her Daddy and this is the only way she knows how to communicate it. Make arrangements for her to speak with him more often or visit if that is possible, but no way let her leave to live...you'll be setting the stage for when trying times really begin to start up and the threats of "I'll just go live with Dad" begin. Make sure you communicate this to EX as well if you both want to see your future teen grow up responsibly with maturity.
2007-09-19 20:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if dad can spend more time with her than just his visitation time. She's too young to know what is good for her. You need to be a strong parent right now and tell her in no uncertain terms that she can't right now. Tell her when she is of age and still wants to live with him you'll talk more about it then. Does dad want her full-time? That's another consideration. If you have doubts about his parenting, don't let her go.
2007-09-19 21:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little girl doesnt want to live with her father to make her mother worry. Maybe she feels that she needs that male figure in her life. None of us want to see our children leave but you can't force them to stay either. Don't force her to choose. A father is a special person in a daughters life. As little girls, we view our fathers as gods. If she wants to go, let her. Make scheduled times to see her and work that out with him. As long as he is a good father, you shouldnt worry.
2007-09-19 20:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by dAyLiTe_DaNcEr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to keep your dauther for your own needs , You dont want to be alone right ;; Let your dauther go with her father and don't worry if she is not happy she willgive a call to come AND pick her up. Don't let her go and I can garantee you she will hate you with force.
2007-09-19 20:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont you think that the dad worries about her while shes with you? wondering what shes doing, how schools going...
your not the only one who cares about this child, and if you cared about her so much you should let her do whatever makes her happy. i think its time you let her go..
2007-09-19 20:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by leroy jenkins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. She has a right to know her father. You got the divorce not her. What a shame when adults crap up a kids life so they have to choose between parents.
2007-09-19 20:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋