TO GUYS: if you dont immediately want to be in a relationship with a girl.. will you ever??

Question

ive known him for 2 and a half years... i fell in love the moment i met him because i honestly just knew... who he was how important he would be...
he thinks im amazing for my talent and my passion... so it seems my beauty to.
We met through my friend who he really liked,
after i knew him for 2 months we were together intimately, we had spent a lot of time conversing and drinking wine before and nothing ever happened until that night..
well after 6 months i moved away for 1 year i came back 1 year ago and at first we talked briefly about dating and then... nothing he still doesnt want to date me..
he had told me about his ex and how he still cares for her and he SEES her occasionally i would marry him if he asked.. really anything he asked of me, i would do, unless it was irrational ..

HE is the type of guy who wants a girl who plays hard to get.. but i dont play games like that...

he completely respects me.. in everyway but he doesnt just tell me yes or no.. either way... does he care for me.. i dont know... does he even give a damn... he always asks how im doing and wants to know whats going on in my life he doesnt go straight for the booty, and the last time i saw him he was holding my hand and treating me so nicely and acting jealous when other guys came around me... just like a man who likes you does... but i dont know..

Answer 1

Now frist off I can tell your over romantizing MOSTLY because your additional details show the real truth to how you feel, which isn't that everything went perfect, is going perfect and you even see it well go perfect. So seeing it in a "pretty" light doesn't help anyone your going to confuse yourself. Realize no matter what that man loved you, and most likly still does, but you need to talk to him about this, I mean if it was so close, why is it so hard now to talk to him? Time doesn't make it harder, trust me, I've been deep and deep is not perfect it is mean, dirty, savage, and extremely bitter-sweet, so maybe, just maybe you guys had a great time, still have a wonderful bond, but unless you can really test it by specking from your heart it doesn't matter...... so in short, tell him hunnie! if not maybe your not being shy, you just know deep down it wasn't as deep as you think.