My 3 year old niece that lives with me, has made a very nice friend, but her friend's mom is very rude. At first she seemed sweet, but then I relized she was very mean. When she dropped her daughter off for a sleepover, it finally dawned on her I'm a single parent (she doesn't know that I'm getting married) and that I have different teaching styles. For instance I let my 20 month old and 3 year old play with Barbies, but her mom thinks they set out a bad example. She called on her child every 20 minutes until I polietly asked her to stop. Her daughter has been to other sleepovers and she had been over my house sevral times and has spent the night before.
Now the mom makes nasty comments about my life and when my niece goes over her house she ignores my daughter. One time I was with them at a play date and she said to her daughter "*Brookie would you like some chocolate chip cookies?" (*=Name has been changed) and her daughter will say sure and then my niece will asks if she can (c)
2007-09-19 11:50:52 · 12 answers · asked by Jasmine 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
have one and her friend's mom ignored her. She brought a plate of cookies, but never ecnologed once my 3 year old.
I want to have a talk with her, but how do I be polite, but firm?
2007-09-19 11:54:26 · update #1
Hmmm that's terrible... You daughter is 3 so it's a little surprising to me that you let her have sleep overs at other people houses especially someone that you obviously can't trust 100%... I would offer to have her daughter over when she suggests the girls get together so that you know they are both being treated with respect if she asks if your daughter can come over say I'd rather not today. When she asks you why you don't let your daughter come over any longer it gives you the perfect time to tell her how uncomfortable you've been the last few times you have played together and give specific examples like the cookies. If you daughter was older it would be a different situation but a 3 year old should be in the best care imaginable and it sounds like your home is the better choice for her at this time.
2007-09-19 13:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
End the relationships....all of the relationships with this woman and her family. It will only lead to trouble. Three years old is a little young to be spending time away from home, especially with someone you don't know any better than that. Your niece and your child are going to pick up all the habits of this family, plus your daughter is being hurt and neglected by the mom. Don't put up with that. End it. Think of the children.
2007-09-27 07:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me sounds like she is either too lazy or she don't know how to potty train him or she is just plain stupid. This little boy should be potty trained by now and be off the bottle. I don't think she wants the kid to grow up. Just tell her straight out that she is putting her sons life on the line and to put him on a diet now and not later. What does his father say about all this? Is he around? Tell her that her son is going to have a lot of heart trouble and he can die due to having to much fat around his heart. My younger step sister is fat she has been like this since she was about 7 months old and she has had alot of trouble she is 24 and she still has trouble with her heart because she is just to fat. Tell your friend to wake up and start being a responsible parent or you will get someone to come and see her because really this is a case of child abuse ( well it is where i come from) Good luck and i hope everything turns out for the best.
2016-05-18 22:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off have the talk with her when children are not around. straight up ask her if there is a problem. Tell her u notice that she ignores your child everytime ...and ask y the rude comment? Tell her u would still like the kids to be able to play together u dont want to tear them apart just because u and the other mom have differences. U both should respect eachothers rules so when the kids at your house they follow your rules when at hers her rules.
2007-09-19 12:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by intensity92000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not out of line to call the woman on her rude behavior. SHe's more than just rude, she's being cruel to your daughter. You have a right to confront the woman about this- in fact, in front of all the other moms.
I would suggest finding another play group or see if the other mothers in the group would consider removing her if she behaves this badly.
best of luck with this
2007-09-19 14:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by Frootbat31 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT IS WRONG WITH PLAYING WITH BARBIES??? Hell this woman is so far up her self it aint funny! I don't think it is fair what she does to your niece and I don't think I would like to have her in that sort of situation.
Try finding her another little friend to play with cause this one just dosn't seem to be working.
as for finding a clear firm but polite way of telling her what you think ummmmmm I really have no clue sorry. Hope you get it sorted though your niece dosn't deserve to be ignored.
2007-09-19 13:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by bitsy_pixie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I don't think I'd even want to be friends with this woman. She's probably always going to be this way, even if you find a gentle way to speak to her. Why not find your niece another friend with a nicer mom? Why give yourself that headache? There's plenty of playmates for your niece out there in the world with nicer moms.
2007-09-19 12:25:26 · answer #7 · answered by trapeze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mom seems judgmental...I would cut the relationship short. Your daughter is young she'll get over it...try and find some cool parents who have values/beliefs in common with you.
Some folks just can't relax, for goodness sake they are only three!
2007-09-27 03:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by simplepleasures 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time for little pathetic games like this in life if she thinks she is so good then let her think that find another friend for your daughter geesh she is pretty immature. i find people like this have some nasty little things in their lives behind closed doors and you probably do not want your kids around her anyways
2007-09-25 04:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let her over there anymore. Invite the friend to your house
you can't trust someone who is mean to children
2007-09-26 17:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by Marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋