My girlfriend of 5 years put a "temporary protective order" on me..?
because we got into a heated argument, I pushed her and bruised her and pulled her hair. I have to stay ten feet away from her in class... should I be upset that she called the cops? Do you think she put this whole situation on herself? How do I react to her in class? after this order expires next tuesday?
I've hit her before but she never called the cops.
how do i win her back or should i?
2007-09-19 11:50:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can't you have a argument with your girlfriend without hitting - It sounds like maybe you have some serious anger issues you should deal with before going out with anyone. I mean if someone can get you that out of control...Do you really want to live like that?
2007-09-19 11:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by CherryCheri 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
First off, sounds like you need help because your behavior is abusive. You should never put your hands on a woman or anyone that is not threatening you for that matter.
How can we say she put this whole situation on herself when we don't know the whole story. You did not say what she did so we could not answer that question.
While in class try your best to stay away from her as you do have an order of protection against you. Maybe asked to be switched to another class if that's possible. In most cases noone will get an order of protection unless they are really afraid they will be physically hurt or they just have drama issues using it as revenge etc....
Why would you want her back? She feels threatened by you. How do you know she even wants you back?
2007-09-19 12:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by dmngoodwmn1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were her I'd probably kicked your nuts by now and made sure you couldn't lift a leg to hit another woman. You won't get this woman back and if you do...pobrecito de ti cuando la gente se de cuenta de como tratas a una mujer.
You shouldn't win her back. Consider those 5 years a lesson learned. If you hit a woman you're supposed to care about because they "brought it upon" themselves...you don't love her. You shouldn't be able to lift a finger to the person you love. The situation is not good for either of you. I think you should let time pass by and overlook your relationship with this woman. Do you want to go back with her because you miss her? Because you're used to her and without her things feel different? If so...they're not really the right reasons. You should want to be with her under any circumstances without flaring up your temper enough to hit her. Nothing justifies her hitting you or you hitting her.
Looks like the times you've hit her before are finally taking their toll...that's why this time around the phone call to the cops can be easily explained.
2007-09-19 11:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by LadyD 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for her! The next time...and there will be a next time, I truly hopes she has you arrested. You have no right whatsoever to lay your hands on another human being to threaten, injure or do harm to in any other way. You need to learn this lesson and learn it well. If you can win her back, which I sincerely hope you cannot, I'd have to ask what's wrong with her as well. We already know you have an anger problem and have no regard or respect for girls and women. We also know you refuse to take responsibility for the things you do. You need therapy and lots of it! When this order expires, don't even think you can injure her further without serious repercussions!
2007-09-19 12:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Chris B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling the actions you took against her scared the crap out of her. She's thinking if he could do this to me what else could he do. What else are you capable of? If she is a smart she will run away from you screaming. It is NEVER right to hit a woman.
You really should seek some counseling and some anger management courses. This could really escalate in the future and you might hurt her even more what if you broke one of her bones or knocked out some of her teeth.
If you really love her you will get this help. That will show her how much you care for her and that you don't ever want to hurt her physically again.
2007-09-19 11:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by lovebeads1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've hit her before?! You should be in jail and she should be the one to throw away the key! I hope she never takes you back - and NO, YOU should not be upset that she called the cops on you, it should have been done much before this incident. I think you need to stay as far away from her as possible.....There are a few choice words I'd like to call you right now.......
You are lucky that your name and address are not available. cause I would send the cops over again and have you arrested (the evidence for previous abuses are in your question).
2007-09-19 11:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by rookie 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Okay...this is my best advice on this subject...so, please read carefully.
Stay away from her...now and into the future...for both your sakes.
It doesn't matter who's at fault here. What's done and in the past should stay there. For whatever reason, you two have a volatile relationship and a history of physical violence. I can't imagine that anything would be different if you started seeing her again.
Don't' try to win her back...don't go near her...and don't ever hit a woman again...whether they ask for it or not.
2007-09-19 11:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay first of all, you should be in jail.
You don't hit girls. didn't your mom teach you that?
Your not gonna get her back. If she gets back with you, she would be stupid. your lucky the cops did not arrest you and put you in jail.
Just leave her alone, she will be much better without you.
5 years. wow. she should have left the first time you hit her...
your next gf. you might not want to tell her about this. and you might not want to hit her.
your a jerk.
2007-09-19 12:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by nykki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Physical violence is just not an acceptable way to deal with anyone, and especially a 'loved one'. Until you understand that then you will never win her back (or anybody else).
The only mistake that I see here is that she DIDN'T call the cops when you beat her before.
How do you react to her? How about with some respect.
2007-09-19 11:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
nicely perhaps she is ultimately uninterested in getting hit and you will desire to be chuffed that she is looking the law enforcement officers and attempting to instruct you some thing. i do no longer think of she positioned this subject on herself you will desire to shop your hands to your self and walk away once you're heated. with a bit of luck you study some thing from this. seems such as you like anger administration or counseling. depart her on my own this is the type you react to her at college. perhaps she'll press costs or get yet another restraining order so which you would be able to study that's no longer the type you handle people. stable for her for calling the law enforcement officers!!
2016-10-09 12:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋