We don’t have the funds for a wedding reception…so, we were thinking of just getting married (maybe Vegas) without the reception and just out to dinner with close family…now, I really want to experience the whole father daughter dance and our first dance and the cutting of the cake…but, my fiancé rather save the money that we would need to use for something wiser like, getting our house, or for (future) children…
Has any one just had the ceremony and not the reception? And how did it turn out and do u regret it?? This is a very hard choice for me…I know that it shouldn’t matter, but, it’s a once in a life thing and I just want it to be nice…is it ok not to have a reception???
thanks
2007-09-19 11:45:24 · 10 answers · asked by *+*+baby dust*+*+ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It isn't necessary to spend a lot of money to have a reception. Just know from the beginning that it will be different from the "show off" receptions that you've been to.
Truthfully, your friends will be glad you didn't spend money that you couldn't afford just to show off. Don't skip the reception, but be creative about it. Maybe you could have it in a nearby park or someone's nice back yard. Decorate with paper flowers or flowers cut from a friend's yard and mesh fabric or even streamers. Ask a friend to be the DJ and play music you love. By all means, dance with your father. This is only once in your life (hopefully!) and you will always regret it if you don't do it! It doesn't have to be big with a lot of people, but don't skip it entirely.
2007-09-19 12:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jane 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ofcourse it is!! is a girls dream to have a wedding!! hey im sure if you bring this point to friends and family they will be able to help you and not only that!! there is no need for 1million dollars box of fireworks...i mean there are plenty of ways to have a nice reception without going into debt for it. try searching for wedding site or other ideas...maybe doing it in a nice garden or a park...and just having a few friends over instead of sll the people you dont know!! trust me ....where there is a will there is a way!! and if you believe in God...well just simply trust that He will provided for the future things to come!! be a smart bride!! shop wisely and enjoy your reception at the fullest...keep in mind that it only happens once in life and why not make the best out of it!! what u will remember in the years to come is the good time you had and no what color the centerpices where!!
take care and good luck!!
2007-09-19 20:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cute brunett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will regret it. However, you don't need to have an extravagant wedding. There are many ways to keep the budget under control. You could have an early daytime wedding on the weekend (lunch always cheaper than dinner) at some gorgeous natural location (cuts out on room rental fees). Have a wedding at a beach or botanical garden so that you can cut down floral centerpieces (the surrounding will be more than enough).
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The theme could be "a perfect picnic." Picnic tables could be set using gingham linen, potted flowers as centerpieces, favors could be small picnic baskets filled with jars of homemade treats. The menu could include roasted corn on the cob, baked potatoes, assorted summer salads, gourmet sandwiches etc.
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Your wedding can be small, elegant and memorable. The day itself will be wonderful -- not expensive -- and you won't have to miss out on anything!
2007-09-19 19:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you go to a restaurant that has dancing? That way you can have your dances, I am sure that the restaurant would cooperate in announcing your first dacne and father/daughter dance. You could probably call ahead and let them know.
As far as the cake, you can get a small traditional wedding cake inexpensively and bring it with you to the restaurant. That sounds like a lovely way to celebrate. Good luck!
2007-09-19 21:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why you can't do both, on any budget. Even if it means you go to Vegas for the wedding and have a party back at home. Someone will make a cake, and you can have your dances.
You posted a similar question before, and I think you've answered your own question - it just means too much to you to let it go.
2007-09-19 20:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you don't do it you will always wish that you had. What if you just cut it down to only about 50 people and have it in someones back yard and keep it very small and quaint. You could have someone that you know who is handy with music handle it and you could still get to do all the things that you want to do on a small budget. I am sure if you were to talk to your parents they would probably think that something small like that would be sufficient enough.
2007-09-19 21:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by ventity325 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead & have your quick awesome personal ceremony however you BOTH want it. There's nothing wrong with getting married & then celebrating with family & friends much later....many couples run off to get married & then on their first anniversary have their reception. Weddings & receptions are all about you 2!! Congrats!!!!!
2007-09-19 19:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by Indi 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, most wedding guests may expect a reception, but it is perfectly fine not to have one...but remember, you will probably regret it in the future..
2007-09-20 02:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by Serenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first wedding i had a very small ceremony and then went out to a real fancy restaurant for dinner. 6 months later, i regretted it big time. no first dance, no party, nothing. this time i am having everything i wanted.
2007-09-20 11:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by nytengayle13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't skip it you will regret it-talk to dad or other family members you may be surprised to find they really want to help!I was
2007-09-19 18:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by suan b 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋