internet, like on this site and on myspace or elsewhere, added them to your messenger, to find that all of a sudden, one day they just stop speaking to you or contacting you?
plus you see them never online anymore either.
you get that empty, lonely feeling inside, how do you deal with it if your in these circumstances and this happens to you?
im 30 and have bpd.
this question is not meant for well adjusted, happy folk who have happy lives.
only answer if youve been there or are still going through it.
thanks
2007-09-19 11:45:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
hi, i just got back to las vegas and checked my mail right away SPECIFICALLY to see how you and a couple of my other net friends are doing and you don't seem very happy 2day...but never fear, lovechild is here, and i think you know that i always read your ?s and always answer from the heart...
if you lose contact with an online friend, don't give up on them. sometimes, especially with the people like us that have bpd or ptsd, we can't get to a computer that is hooked up to the net for a while, or we are having problems in our living situations from other people's interference-(i know that you can relate to that one! ) anyway, the people that care about you don't stop caring just because they aren't in daily contact with you... i still consider people my close friends that i haven't seen for years and i know that when i do talk to them again, we will pick up right where we left off but with more to talk about!
so don't be discouraged... just keep talking to as many people as you can and maybe even hook up some friends with other friends on a conference call or something...where friendship is concerned the greater network you have, the more knowledge you have; knowledge is power and strength is in its numbers..
peace love glad 2 back
2007-09-19 18:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm one of those 'disappearing' people, and I've accidentally hurt more than one person by neglecting our online relationship. For what it's worth, my intention is never to neglect anyone or make them feel that their friendship is unwanted. It's happened for many reasons before, although it's usually because I rarely spend time at home or I get tired of being hyper-dependent on my online world. I've got a crappy attention span and lose interest in the messenger/websites.
I don't know if a view from the perspective of a 'deserter' helps at all, but I thought I'd share just in case. It's not you at all, it's just that people in general are fickle, and there's no accountability when it comes to online friendships.
I do know where you are coming from.... my husband goes into rages, then a depression when his online friends disappear.
It's not your fault other people suck.
2007-09-19 12:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by squeaky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I totally know where you're coming from, I just hope you're not referring to me in any way. I'm having a real difficult time right now as to live or not to live but I pretty much already told you my crap. You need to move here to Canada and in my home town we can start our own BOD support group... thought it was a good idea. I understand the "alone" feeling all to well and even when people are around me I'm still really alone cause no one understands who or what I really am. Hell... I don't even know. I'm struggling each day to stay alive even when the evidence clearly points the other way..take a deep breath and keep going.. Good Luck xoxo
2007-09-19 13:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by chantale 31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be easier to stay home and be on the Internet instead of trying to make real friends in the flesh and blood.
How do we know if we can trust what people say about themselves on the Internet. I hope you make some real friends that you will enjoy being with. Good Luck
2007-09-19 12:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by Hopefully Helpful 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who really has a happy well adjusted life?
You need to go out and join a BPD support group (Google it). That way you will be meeting real people who REALLY understand what your life is like. You will feel more fulfilled with friendships with real, tangible people.
2007-09-19 11:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Geologist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i would say so
2007-09-19 11:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋