Wot wud u do if ur boyfriend wasn't interested in anything u wanna do but you've put time into his interests?

Answer 1

I'm the bf in this situation and I feel bad so I take the initiative to do things I know she likes. She willing fully does what I want all the time and I feel it's un-equitable. She's too nice to push the issue with me but I read her well and just do it myself. I think things kind of work out well in a relationship if sometimes people take on the things they don't want to do. That's what being in a relationship is about.

While I enjoy playing sports I am not one for watching it, but she loves baseball games so every now and then I dreadfully sit through on by surprising her with tickets! It's the same with fancy restaurants; I could eat bread and chips at home but she likes $40 a meal places so every now and then I just make reservations and take her (although on principle I hate it knowing people are starving out there); and lastly, furniture shopping - the worse - I hate that - it is so boring - but I will pick her up after work and take her!

She does a lot for me though too - so it's cool.

Answer 2

First, tell him about it. Tell him that you do what he wants to do all the time, but he never wants to do anything that you are interested in. And that's not fair.

If he just can't get into your interests, you will be unhappy in the relationship sooner or later, if you are not already.

I spent 1 1/2 years with my boyfriend, and the situation was the same way. Finally, I got tired of not being able to do anything I wanted to do and broke up.

You would be amazed how many other guys out there would be caring enough to share in your interests. Go for one of these guys and you'll be much happier!

Answer 3

Well if the guy wasn't capable of showing any interest in what I like to do and he requires me to do what he likes to do, then he really doesn't like me and I would need to end the relationship. Its no fun to be with a guy or girl that you dont share at least SOME of the same interests. Remeber though to really look back and ask yourself, are we doing the things he likes because I cant think of anything to do, or do I bring some ideas up and he bags them all every single time.

Answer 4

This is very typical. Girls would always want to be involved in boy's interest to show him that you care for him. However, boys always want to have space. Give him some space and don't try to push him too hard. Otherwise, he will go away. It always follows the similar trend in a relationship: At beginning, men chases woman. Men basically will do everything for her. Once they become boy and girl friends for a while, men got bored and want to do something different. Have your parents always been together without their own space? If not, you have to give some space to your boy friend. Just a thought. I am a man who loves girls. However, there are some boy things I like and don't want my girl friend's involvement. I still love her, but, you know, I need some space.

Answer 5

Well my guy was like that too. I think the important thing to do is talk to him about it, but not in a nagging way. Just be cool about it and don't start with the "we need to talk" phrase its like guys mentally shut off when they hear that. If you tell him/ or have told him already then he doesn't respect you or your interest and you need to leave him. Don't conform to everything he likes, because he fell in love with you for who you are, and ur interests and then you will just seem needy to him and he'll start to feel smothered.

Answer 6

Smack him upside the head. Well, you did ask what I would do.

I would also have a little talk with him and remind him that relationships are two-way streets and if he doesn't start showing a little more interest in you and willingness to meet you half way his side of the street is going to hit a dead end.

Answer 7

for a relationship to work you both have to make sacrifices and show an interest in what the other one wants to do sounds like it's a one way road and your doing all the work this in time will only frustrate you and you'll probably end up dumping him and hating him.

Talk to him before it's too late

Answer 8

i may well be like "for the millionth time no, you ought to positioned on a condom" and "no, getting married on the little white chapel with elvis as our witness does no longer be humorous!" yet for genuine, my boyfriend has in no way reported any of those issues, and if yours has, i might probably be slightly creeped out if i've got been you. "in the back of each lie there is rather of actuality."

Answer 9

haha..i went through this for about 6 years...we ended up married and now divorce...today would have been 5 years married..=( but i got tired, too much giving in and him not trying...i accepted his life, and wanted a part of it..his music, friends culture, everything...he was never willing to compromise with me...i had hope and finally got tired of it...i walkd away..but i couldnt take it...

pretty much talk to him. if he wants to be with you and work this out and wants it to last, he will be willing to invest his time in your life...you can see how hard he tries...if not, then honestly its not worth it...you want to be happy and we all deserve to be happy...its part of relationships, he doesnt have to like it, he just needs to accept it because its a part of you...be open-minded!!!!

Answer 10

First of all I'd confront him and if that doesn't work, break it off. Second, take a grammar and spelling class, and meet nicer gentlemen there.